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writes:okay so this guy and i like eachother, we aren't dating because he doesn't want to rush...we have had these feelings for about a month! we have already had sex twice...i feel like this is going nowhere and that i am wasting my time...i don't want him to be my boyfriend because i don't want to rush but i want to go on an actual date...i told him to come over to my house and he stood me up...this is the second time! He says i need to stay with him if i think hes worth it...i don't know if hes worth it and i want to give it a shot! whenever i try to make a date he says he needs a friend to give him a ride and that i need to bring a friend to date him...thats bs! i have been getting hit on by tons of respectable guys and he doesn't know how good he has it! how do i make it so that he respects me and takes me on a date without ending anything? Reply to this Question
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (11 August 2009):
 Ending what? You don't have a relationship, he's some guy you had sex with twice. There hasn't even been a date so you two are just hookup buddies. If he wanted to date you he wouldn't bring up all these requirements and excuses, instead he would find a way. I suggest you stop messing with him and instead find a guy willing you to take you out and treat you nicely beforehand.
Good luck.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 I was going to write some lengthy answer but Rifraf says it all.
And what are you doing having sex at your age anyway?
You need to have some self respect, this guy surely has none for you. You need to let him go, learn from this mistake and never do this again. Otherwise the same cycle will repeat itself over and over.
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reader, Perspicacious  +, writes (11 August 2009):
You like this guy. He doesn't want to date you, and keeps standing you up. You don't want to rush things, but you let him use you for sex anyway.
Never mind making him respect you - you need to respect yourself and realise that you need to end this situation!
As you say, there's tons of respectable guys and sadly this guy isn't one of them. Get rid, and next time insist on at least dating before even considering having sex with someone.
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