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*ixieGwen
writes:Ex and I broke up 3 wks ago.We've txted frequently.Broke up - claims he wasnt feeling it anymore *he gave numerous random reasons*(during our relationship he never acted unhappy/called and saw me daily - on his part, had me meet his fam/they loved me and hed talked about hypthetically moving in - future.He's been cheated on in every relationship and said he truste me but managed to brk up w/ me a wk or so b4 my trip).We agreed we didnt wanna see others(durin this time he had financial/work probs - still does) Said he'd be good to go in a cpl wks and maybe we could date later.I had to visit fam, so b4 leavin for my trip we watched a movie and had sex 2x.Durin my trip I felt I was chasin him by txtin him, so I stopped for a cpl days.He txted "Still havin fun in ny./cos I hadnt heard from u in a cpl days"*he was wrong*.He's been nice, been up and down *complainin bout being broke etc*.Gave him a lil space and then called 2 see how hes doin.We chatted a lil/he was out and about so was gonna call me later.I asked if he was busy tomorrow *so that I could just call him w/ out interruption* he said he was busy - goin out to look at hats w/ a friend. After thinkin for awhile I txted jokingly sayin" if u have a hot date tomorrow, u can just tell me..its cool" he replied w/ a douchey answer "its not my friends biz or ur biz as to who i hang w/ - date or not".I was shocked by the reply cos he's been soo nice and seemed to kind of miss me.He seemed cold even tho it was txt.I felt stupid and changed the sub and mentioned some movies I had 4 him - if he was still interested and after no reply I said "unless u dont wanna hang anymore.just thought u wanted to see these movies... whatevers clever lol:)".I dont like it when people are mad at me or when i offend w/ out doin it on purpose..Things were fine between us and I felt i ruined them by askin a q that I thought was harmless but shouldnt have asked.. I think for now ill leave him alone for about 5 days and maybe see whats up.. I just dont understand why he's actin like this.. - hes like jekyll/hyde - pulls me in but pushes me away..What should I do or does this sound ok? opinions pls :)Thanks.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (4 August 2009):
 Stop contacting him, period. If he wants you back in his life he will let you know. You two are broken up and need to act like it for a while.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (4 August 2009):
I would give him his space, I mean why keep trying to communicate with someone who doesn't want to talk. He wanted to break up so you gave him what he wanted. He is playing these games because he knows you will bite. Honey they call them Ex's for a reason forget about him and move. There was no reason for him to be rude to you at all especially if you were just joking. He apparently is having some other issues that have nothing to do with you and he is probably just taking his anger out on you. Save yourself the drama and let him go and find someone to date that will appreciate your attention.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (4 August 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question hello :)
its not the same question.. i just gave a summary of whats been up until this point..
cos my question is mainly the bottom..
(its better to give as much info as possible..so the reader can get an idea and give a better opinion or better advice).. atleast thats what i think :)
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