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writes:I come to this point that I’m, looking for others people opinion. Here is my story. I met this guy at work about 3 years ago we start sleeping together, there is a difference in years between us (he is 30 I’m 41); he said that’s not a problem for him. I’m very much in love with him. However he is telling me that he cant get into serious relationship until we don't work together because he doesn’t want any publicity at work .he never really ask me out, he always wants to met for few minutes never for longer time usually after work, never on the weekends, he almost never answer my calls or text me back. He also never invited me to his home (he claims that he has roommates . ) Even one time one of his (female friends) showed at work, and he was kissing her for goodbye, that really hurt me so badly, but I was able to forgive him.I find out in January that he has a daughter ( he told me )she must be 18 months now and is leaving with him ,but he is not in relationship. He keeps this as a secret no one knows that he has a child ,don’t ask me why , that is a mystery to me too. I told him that his daughter is not a problem at all, I have daughter my self . He is been dropping all this bead news on my head since January. I have been under big amount off stress I don’t know what to do. He has been blowing hot and cold . We met about 2 weeks ago and he was fine, we talked about few things and suddenly he cut all contact with me. he doesn’t reply to my txt or calls at all. I was trying to talk to him at work this past Friday but he was very unpleasant to me so I walked away. I have done nothing wrong .What should I do ? Should I stop trying and move on ? I’m very tired of the whole situation I need some opinions and advice please .Bad part is we work together .daisy
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reader, antanelly  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 Hello Daisy,Congrats for putting up with him for far too long but honestly IT HAS GOT TO STOP you deserve way better than this. You have all the signs around you , clear as day light..I KNOW its hard cause u love him and u work together,, but this is for ur own sanity and happiness. LET HIM BE (show him that two can play that game) and ur so much better than this. It is hard but it will get better in time (which u wont know if u dnt try)...forget about him..there is plenty of fish in the sea ...And Daisy, EVERYDAY IS ANOTHER CHANCE TO START ALL OVER AgAIN.. U deserve waaaaaaaaaaay much better than this. He will eventually get wha is coming to him (what goes around comes around) I promise u this :)let me know how it goes.. till then dump him and keep ur head high ;)
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reader, lysha  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 hun dont take this horribly but im think you are oblivious and i feel sorry for you'two of my family members have had relationships with married men, one of them knew about it the other was oblivious and would not come to terms with the fact the man was married until we actually found out!now this man is either in a relationship or is married by the sounds of things, he has kept you a secret, doenst always answer his phone, doesnt want any publicity at work because his colleagues will see him, the women he kissed to say bye was probbaly his partner im afraid to say, he has a daughter and its probably been on his shoulders that now he has a child what he is doing is disrespectful to his partner, or another scenario could be that his partner is starting to get suspicious and he got freaked out and cut you of which is horrible!please for your own sake move on this man is no good for you, believe me it will feel so much better to be in a relationship where you can show your love for one another!hope this has helped and please smile, hes not worth it hun :)
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