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writes: So I'll give you the background, I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half and for the most part everything has been great, it's been since we've started our GCSE's that problems have been arising, mostly because of my absolute hate for being beaten or feeling inferior. I didn't really know this as my boyfriend was very very shy, but he has an extremely wide general knowledge, and as he has become more confident, this has been appearing more and more. We're equally as clever as each other in terms of grades, but my general knowledge is very lacking and I don't know whether it's just me, but he seems to be dwelling on this. He asks me things ALL the time like 'Who did this...?' 'Who invented that...?' 'Did you know this...?' knowing damn well that I won't know, and to be quite honest, it makes me feel like shit. But the problem is, and I'll be the first to admit it, I have done a fair amount of attention seeking in the past, most of the time just to get some reaction and feel loved, I know it's wrong and I'm trying to my best to stop, anyway he cottoned on to this and seems to think anything I say I'm doing it for attention, so every time I try to talk to him about the above issue (and trust me I've tried PLENTY of times) he thinks I'm saying it for attention, and basically ignores me, when it is actually genuinely hurting me, a lot. I feel like he has no respect for me or my feelings anymore. I'm not saying I want him to stop learning all these things because it's what he does, but I feel like he's deliberately doing it to patronize me. Any help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): Your boyfriend sounds like an intelligent young man who is eager to learn new things and loves knowledge there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, let his intelligence shine, be proud of him don`t feel inferior. Love trust and respect eachother and true love will last.
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reader, lysha +, writes (29 May 2011):
 people your age tend to like the attention its natural he needs to accept that, and im sure he has done his fair share too that he wont admit, tell him that this is dragging you down, say to him that you understand that you do like the occassional attention to make you feel wanted and cared for, but this time your serious and if he wont take you seriously then you will have to think about cutting the relationship of until he understands, explain that you do love him but with the way he is now acting your finding it hard to think he still loves you, say to him that you are smart in your own way, he knows things you dont and you know things he doesnt, if he gets petty and asks 'like what' then simply say it doesnt matter im trying to get my point across, let me finish what im saying, make him understand!hope this has helped hun :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): Never be disrespected by anybody, if you do then disrespect them back and then cut them out of your life, its the only way. Speak with him, he may not be patronizing you intentionally, just the way he is.
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