A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy 3 weeks ago. We have been hanging out alot and it is going great. He text each other all day every day and call each other every night. However here is the curve ball. He is just getting out of a bad relationship. He said that his ex cheated on him and that he whole relationship was horrible. He has told me that he likes me and that I am everything that his ex isnt. He also says that he finds himself thinking of me during the day. However, he wont agree to get into a relationship with me saying that he is a slow mover and wants to get to know me better before we do that. We have not had any type of sexual contact but we have kissed on many occasions. He is a great guy. I trust him completetly. I like him alot but dont want to have to compete with his ex neither do I want to deal with that type of drama. My better judgement is telling me to let him heal from his bad relationship but I want to be in a relationship with a guy so bad because I just came out and the only types of guys that he came at me have been losers who I didnt give the time of day. Also, I left out that he told me that he and his ex are still in communication. But he says that his ex is always the one who initiates the calling and/or texting. Confused
View related questions:
his ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Collaroy  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Hi,
I cant really see too much of a problem here. First point - he is still in contact with his ex. After only a few weeks that is natural, as they will undoubtedly have things to tie up from their relationship - mutual possessions etc.
I think he's being very sensible in wanting to go slow as he probably is aware of the rebound scenario and doesnt want to get involved heavily straight away.
There is nothing wrong with you two hanging out and getting to know each other a lot better before you commit. That way you will know if you are suited to each other as friends and its not just sexual.
I wouldnt be putting pressure on him as he is still going through emotions related to splitting up, you might find he becomes weary of being pressured from another angle.
Be the supporting mate . Good luck.
|
