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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm in love with my co-worker who is twice my age; he's smart, sexy, funny and we have a lot in common. Problem is he's involved in a relationship, he also seems to favour one of the other girls at work a bit more than me. I'm just so terribly jealous! He does flirt with me but I don't know if he's just being friendly sometimes. His pupils don't seem to dilate when he looks at me either :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): I know how you feel!!!!
It's happened to me as well, he flirts, you think he fancies you, you start to fancy him more, he flirts with another lady, she's probably seeing and feeling exactly the same as you do, confused and jealous and taken in by it.
He is a player in his head, he flirts with all the girls for attention, HE HAS GOT YOUR ATTENTION!!
Even if his pupils did dilate for you, all that says is that he finds you attractive as well as flirts with you.
Don't get roped in by any of it, he feels nothing for you, if he did, he would not flirt with another woman in front of you! He would want to give you a good impression of himself to attract you, even if he only wanted to have a bit on the side with no strings!!
Don't analyse any of it, I have and it got where I felt ill over it!
You say twice your age?
He is going through a patch in his life where he feels he has to prove he is still adored, wanted, atractive, and craved for by the women!!
I know how it starts, he makes eyes at you, he talks softly to you, he probably touches you casually, looks you up and down, blushes around you and follows you around some.
All of these signs mean zilch!!
After a while he would tell you in actual words that he felt something towards you instead of messing around with your feelings, even if he is in a relationship.
Messing around with your feelings makes him feel even better and that is the only reason he is doing this!!
Stay away from him, you are already feeling jealous, and will end up feeling ten times worse than that if you go on seeing the things that only make you feel good!! Those things make you feel bad after a while, I know!!
It took me months of all this up and down stuff to realise myself that I was being messed around, please don't waste months of your life on this ego maniac who wants to be adored!!!!
The very fact that you have posted this on here, as I did myself, only goes to show that you are a short way from infatuation over this boy in a man's body, and he is not worth it, you will get hurt!!
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reader, VenaCava  +, writes (31 July 2010):
 Waaaahhh...he's in a relationship, no chance, no chance at all!!!
Lady, trust me, if he's single I'll give all my support for you to try to get his attention, but he's not.
You will not want to have anything to do at all with a man that has been taken. It is bad for your karma, and it gives minus on your self respect points.
Forget the flirt and look for another guy, you are so young, so vibrant and smart. With a little bit of luck,very soon you are going to find an even better man than mr. flirt.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 July 2010):
He's involved in a relationship, so take those rose tinted glasses off and see what this guy is really like. Oh yes, he's smart, sexy and funny. But he's also taken by another woman and is having his ego stroked by all you naive young women who don't understand men like him.
The point is, nothing will happen. And if it did, then he'd be a cheat. So stop cooing over this guy and find another one who's ego isn't so in need of constant attention.
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