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36-40,
*ubblygirl
writes:I did something terribly wrong last night.I went to a club with some friends and a guy last night. This guy and i have a past but i thought it was over since he now has an out-of-province girlfriend. That seems to be a problem tho because i got pretty drunk and went home with this guy and stayed the night at his place where we made out several times around his apartment. I didnt realize what i was doing then cause i was still somewhat drunk but realized this morning but he initiated it all by arranging to get together with me and starting to make-out with meShould i tell someone? If i tell my friends, they will think we are BOTH horrible. If i tell his girlfriend, she will tell everyone and hate me forever. I cant keep this in tho, its killing me, i cried all morningNow he's ignoring me, what should i do?? (is it considered cheating too?)
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 I think you should learn from this mistake and move on.
We all make bad choices sometimes and it's best to see our wrong doing so we don't do it again.
Do not tell his girlfriend. Do not tell anyone.
They don't need to know, it's none of their business.
He should feel worse because he has a girlfriend.
And if he wants to say things to people, let him. but I doubt it cause he doesn't want to get caught.
He's ignoring you cause he feels guilty, and if he face you then he has to see what he did wrong.
Just ignore him, and move on.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 Sorry ... I'm English, and not quite sure what 'making out' covers! Did you have sex with him? I think he is the one who has behaved badly, because he has the girlfriend and it is up to him to be faithful. If he presents himself as free to you, then that's unfair both to you and her. Don't beat yourself up about it. It was his call.
I think you should bloody well get hold of him and have a serious conversation with him. What is he playing at? But DON'T tell his girlfriend - that, too, isn't your place, in my opinion. And don't tell your friends, yet. I would simply talk to him, see what is going on - does he want to be with you or her? And then, to be honest, I really wouldn't tell anyone. You will forget it, eventually. You will do his girlfriend and yourself much more damage by telling. The price you pay, effectively, is having to suffer in silence. But that is actually the kindest thing. Although you absolutely shouldn't do it again - if there's any hint of that, make him finish with her first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): Ignore him and keep out of it, just don't do it again. She'll realise what he's like soon enough
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