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writes: I'm in such a dilemma. I've recently broke up with my ex (a mth ago) but still kept in touch with his good buddies. They were always nice towards me.Recently at one of his mate(S)'s bday party, S showed he had interest in me. Thinking it was alcoholic influence, I didnt think much about it. A few days later he accompanied to one of my friend's function and on the way to our cars, we kissed. It left my heart beating 1000 miles/sec. It left my confused as he's my ex-bf's mate and 3 yrs younger than me.We decided to speak the next day. He said that he liked me and wanted to pursue but am too afraid of losing the common circle of friends in btw and breaking trust of my ex with him. We did go out once and found out that we had a lot of things in common (I use to fight a lot with my ex coz we're totally opposite).Now, S is deciding whether to pursue or not. He's scared of losing his business dealings with his mates or being tossed for "stealing his mate's ex-gf". Im devastated. There is a strong mutual feeling that wasnt there when i was dating my ex. We dont want to let go but we dont want to risk losing our friends.Pls ... Pls ... How can i get the guy that I want and have his friends with us too?
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reader, tracy1 +, writes (4 July 2006):
Looks like the relationship was over before it started. He left me hanging for 3 months until I bugged him for an answer. So ... the morale of the story: If ur ex is a jerk, his frens are too. :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): I think you and him may be over reacting to what his mates will say.
You and your ex broke up before anything happened with this new guy. His mates will know this and they have no reason to carry on.
They may give him a bit of a roasting the first time they hear it but then everything will go back to normal. These sorts of things can happen within groups of friends and as long as it is handled well and his mates are told by him and don't find out second hand - everything should be ok.
Good luck
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