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writes:Me and this "lad" got talking online about a year ago now and we fell for each other. We live about 5 and a half hours away from each other also we became best friends weve been threw alot together and stuck by each other through thick and thin. Weve only ever met/seen each other once but its been about 4-5 months since I spoke to him. I dont know where he's gone or anything, No one does. I want to forget about him but its hard because of my feelings and because of what we've been through. And I also can't move on because what if he comes back I just want to forget about him why is it so hard to?
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reader, {*HyPa~AzN~hUnNiE~*} +, writes (20 January 2007):
 hmmm... online relationships dont always work.. trust me ive been through it. you dont have to move on if you dont want to, but you should atleast enjoy life and if hecomes back, great! go out with your friends more ans socialise, have lil girlie giggles, this well help you forget. u might think im wrong right now but ur only 13-15, ur 2 young 2 understand relationships n u will later on realise how foolish you had been waiting 4 a boy. trust me i have been through alot of these "teen issues". have fun, these years will never come back :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): hurtingheart.org
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): While we can't say for sure what happened to him, this scenario is all to common. If he's gone and vanished into thin air, then either he's a) the victim of foul play or a truck ran over him and he can't talk ....or b) he making it quite clear he's moved on to other things in his life. I am thinking you should go with 'b'. The long distance thing may not have been his thing. I can't say for sure, but onlinme romances are fickle sometimes, and I think this may be what happened. He's likely met other potentials, as well, online. So, you have a choice here, you could ignore and deny all rationality and accept he's moved on or you can dwell, pine away and waste time trying to solve this mystery. But ignoring the rationale is not going to help you move ahead and finding someone, where you live, who can love you and cherish you. This is what you should be doing, hun because...it sounds like your online bf didn't have the courage to tell you he was moving on. So my dear, his actions/ behaviours, his silence is really your answer, here. So heal, recover, hun and get out with your friends and have fun, enjoyable, positive life. You will get to the point, where you will say "what was I thinking?" whenever the memory of him pops into your head. You are just not there, yet. So stop waiting...you have got so many better things to do with your time.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (20 January 2007):
 Hi there, when you say he's gone do you mean he's moved? If he hasnt responded to your emails or anything then I think you have to accept that he's had something happen in his life that has caused him to move on from you. it could be that he's met someone or he's just changed but what ever it is you cant stay 'stuck' like you are. You have to move on too. It will be hard but you need to try and put this boy to the back of your head and get out with your friends. If he does appear back online then fine but dont wait around for him because you're wasting your life. In time your feelings will change and fade and someone else will be demanding your attention. You're young and there are plenty more boys out there who you will develop feelings for. Take care okay and good luckx
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