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36-40,
*ink_nurse
writes:my boyfriend is going travelling for 6 months with another girl...ive been with him for 2 years and truly beleive he'll be the guy i marry..hes wanted to travel long before i met him and a few months ago he was like im going to book travelling and so i was like well i dont want to hold you back...go for it. at the time he said he was only going to go for 2 months, which although its still a long time, i could have handled it.however, yesterday morning he rings me out the blue saying hes booked it for 6 months because he wouldnt have been able to do everything he wanted to do in 2 months and hes going with his female friend.im gutted...its like he hasnt even considered me or how i'll feel when hes gone. theres no way i can afford to go with him and to be honest from what hes said in the past its like he wouldnt want me to go any way. he says it will fly by, which maybe so for him when hes living it up around the world but what about me back at boring home? feel like im being selfish because this is his dream and id never expect him not to go because of me but i feel heartbroken. help!!
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reader, pink_nurse +, writes (25 June 2007):
pink_nurse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionahh thanks guys!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 I do not like him doing this to u he's so mean and morevover going with a girl I think u should drop him dear u can try talking to him but I think it's going to be complicated so maybe u should gat distant
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): I get the feeling your boyfriend is not ready to 'settle' just yet and you are being very gracious in letting him pursue his own ambitions at your emotional expense. However you must make it clear to him that you will also be pursuing interests during that 6 months - and I suggest you also set yourself some time-bound goals - and carry these out. I have been a long time in a relationship in which I let my partner pursue everything he wanted and I was just the lady-in-waiting. Do not take on this role. As for him choosing to go with a female friend I am a little suspiscious - do you know this person? Why is he not going with a male friend? His decision to do this was al;w is clearly going to to hurt your feelings and over and above everything else - why would he want to do that? You could have travelled together or he could have broken down his travelling into smaller chunks of time. I would give him an ultimatum - if he goes for 6 months you won't be waiting for him. See what his decision is. It will tell you a lot about his real feelings for you. Good luck.
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