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writes:I have been dating a man for 1 yr and 8 months..at the beginning he would write on cards love and if I said I love you he would respond but never would say I love you first...we live in different cities about 2 hours apart. When I am with him he treats me like a queen very much a gentleman..recently I will say I love you and he does not respond...now he says he has never been in love..how does he know if he is in love..he says he has too many things going on in his head..like how expensive it is seeing each other and where this will lead to or going. Yet he wants me to call him everyday..and when we go shopping he wants to buy me things I keep saying no we actually fight at the cashier..I have a job I can pay for my own stuff..what do I do?
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reader, Yummie Mammy  +, writes (12 June 2008):
Some men still like to be kind of old fashioned so it is good in a way that he still wants to buy you things, although you have to ask yourself if he is buying you things to try and make up for other things?
Perhaps the stress of the distance is getting to him, long distance is tough at the best of times. Or perhaps he has issues going on at home or work that because of the distance you are not aware of. If he has problems that maybe he feels he needs to hide from you for whatever reason then this would occupy his mind and make him on guard when he talks to you.
He has treated you so well in the past so maybe just ask him out right if he feels that something has changed in your relationship? Every relationship has it's honeymoon period and unfortunately those great early days don't last forever, it's what happens after that period that counts.
Be brave and talk to him, but be gentle, if there are other issues that you aren't aware of then make him feel that he can open up to you.
Good Luck xx
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reader, aunty chrissie  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 dont men mix our heads up eh. they give us signals of whta we want then change it. have you tryed to talk to him asked him what the problem is, i expect you have, maybe he bottles things up which is what it sounds like, if hes got lots going on in his head he needs to tell you what. sometimes men find it difficult to talk face to face, so mabe chat on the phone, tell him as much as you love him you wont phone him again unless he pours his heart out to you. hate to say this but is he married? sorry if that offends you it was just a thought. or you could tell him to write it all down and send it too you. but he obviously has got a problem. good luck!
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