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*onfusedlover
writes:Well my boyfriend and I decided to break up and just stay friends. He says he needs to find himself. And he confessed to me about all his secrets that he had sex with my sister many times and so many other girls and it's not even that! It's the fact that he's been dating them all too! My problem is that even though he confessed his darkest secrets to me I always forgive him I still love him. He says I can date other guys if I want to get back at him for what he's done because either way, we're broken up. But I don't know what's wrong with me, I can't stop loving him! I don't know! It hurts cuz he's hurt me so bad yet I can't stop loving him! What's wrong with me?????? Reply to this Question
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 You're not in touch with the logical (less nice) parts of your mind, the parts that demand vengeance and get a kick from watching stuff like world's greatest sporting disasters etc. This is what happens when people detach themselves from the rest of their brain and go only into the softer parts of themselves. We all need balance. You need to harden up. Remind yourself of how he treated you so badly and what an ass he was and how he betrayed u in every single way possible. Then channel those thoughts into feelings other than being hurt (definitely not love), dont let yourself be the victim. That might be a start to stopping feeling that way about him
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 There is nothing wrong with you. You love this guy and he treats you badly. Love is blind. Maybe in your heart you think he will change and be faithful to you. Truth of it is he doesnt care about you and is a player. Guys that treat a girl like this have no respect for them. You need to move on and forget him. Easier said than done i know, you will hurt for a long time but you will come out the other side a better stronger person.
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