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writes:dear cupid, Right now I'm in this relationship with a guy I've been with 4 about a year.. our relationship was alright up until a few months ago in about January when i got pregnant things started getting really messed up when his whole person started changing he started treating me different and acting funny now it has gotten worse now we fight 2 much and we just don't get along like we use 2 i recently found out hes on drugs crack 2 be exact.. that drug has him going crazy treating me wrong he just acts like his single n doesn't know me or remember what we have or had i think if it came down 2 it and i was starving i don't think he would even care he talks 2 me how ever and treats me however i really don't do nothing wrong i dont cheat im faithful 2 him.. i dont understand y hes like this and y he treats me like dis i try my best 2 do the rite thing but we never get ne where we just fight so much every time i try 2 talk about anything 2 try 2 fix our problems he takes what im saying like a joke but @ the same time he tells me he loves me so much hes in love with me blah blah but never ne actions i feel that his just stringing me along im suffering bcuz im good 2 him and im faithful 2 him.. i don't no what 2 do ne more im confussed im depressed i feel lonely my hearts broken i don't no what 2 do ne more we live 2gether and i can't get away from here he wont let me move on with my life ne time i try its the same shit he takes my money and the information on where i need 2 be and if its not that he be trying 2keep me up during the nite so i dont go ne where its so much stuff were going p /p /threw i need ur opinion and advice.. i no what i wrote might not be correct and if u cant understand it im sorry but im crying as i write this 2 u! p /p /
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Call the cops and tell them he has crack..They will arrest him, he will go to jail where he can't get crack. So he will have to clear his mind of the drugs and come off crack. Hopefully jail time will help him realize what is important in life. His baby and you. If he can't then you need to go do this on your own. It's better for a child to be fatherless than to have a crack head as a father. Imagine the baby being there around this man when he's on drugs and treating you this way! What a horrible influence!! And that's not even saying what harm could come upon your baby when it is living with drug addicts. You need to think about the baby and not him. The next time he's out getting his crack, leave. Go to a relative's house, and do not give him your money!! You need that $ for your baby and he's using it for drugs. Do not go back to this guy. He is going to ruin your and your child's lives.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 Hey hunni,
You need to think about you and your baby. I feel pregnant the end of January so we are around the same time and I know how "hard" being 7 months pregnant is. I know that sounds harsh but your babies wellbeing has to come first.
Your guy is treating you differently because of the drugs. Drugs mess with your head and emotions and can make you see all sorts of things. After only being together a year or so he may be messing himself up as he thought having a child was too soon. I thought my partner would struggle and we've been together 3 years and don't live together yet.
You need to get your guy to see he needs to come off the drugs and be a dad. It wont happen over night if he has an addiction to crack now. But you cant have that kind of crap around your baby.
STOP letting him have your money. You need that for you and the baby. Babies are bloody expensive and he cannot take your money away from feeding and clothing you or your child! You need money at the moment to be eating healthy and stuff yourself as your baby is feeding on what you eat and drink.
The drugs are blinding him to what he is doing and how he is treating you. You need to take a stand with him now and say the drugs stop or he's getting kicked out/you're leaving. He cannot by law stop you from leaving him. If he gets violent over this then call the police. But you need to take a stand.
He wont be able to help himself until he can see he has a problem but you cant sit around taking crap from someone whilst pregnant. The stress will not be doing you or the baby any good!
If you want to talk more hun drop me a message!
Good Luck!
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (26 August 2007):
I'm guessing he couldn't handle the responsibility and saw drugs as an outlet. You can't just tell him to quit as Cassandra suggests and hope it will magically stop. He's hooked now. He needs rehab and you two might need counseling.
He needs to be a fully functioning individual to help take care of this child. Deep down, he's still in there somewhere, but he needs to be found and pulled out of the waters permanently. I know you've got a child on the way, making it crazy enough, but expect life to be more difficult with getting him back to reality too. It is better to do it now, than later.
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reader, cassandra_096 +, writes (26 August 2007):
ok well, this problem can be fixed..if it was me nd i just found out that my man was on crack i would most likely tell him to quit nd if he dosent ill leave him.i understand that u r having his child but thats no excuse for his to treat u like "shit".think about ur baby. u dont want ur baby to be around a man like that i mean dnt get me wrong im not saying his a bad man but if hes treating u bad imagine how he is going to treat ur baby.nd the thing that bugs me the most is that he wont let u leave!! u have the right to leave if u want 2!!!but make sure he dosent hit u!! if he hits u call the police! dnt be scared! take a stand.nd i hope u dry those tears!! u dnt need to be crying ova a man who treats u bad!i hope i helped!!make the right choice! xoxo
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