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writes:Hi, I am hurting so much inside because about l7 years ago, when I was engaged to my ex fiance', I fell in love with a married man and he means the world to me but he would never leave his wife for me even though he is living in hell with her. He had two young children at that time so I understood. In the meantime my engagement broke up and I could see alot more of Him but then decided to move forward with my life and got engaged to my late husband who passed away 7 months ago. We never lost contact but we had not seen one another for 4 years and about two weeks ago he asked to see me again and I went to him with all my heart because I knew that he did still love me and I never stopped loving him when I was married. I kept him deeply embedded in my heart even though I had a wonderful husband and a very good marriage. Now he has been transferred to another place and another job and it will be very difficult for him to keep up our relationship. His wife had found out about us many years ago and she keeps a tight chain over him but he still will not leave her even though I am now a widow but says my children would probably not approve of him since he is l7 years older than I am. He phoned me up a couple of days ago and told me it was a mistake to get back together and now I am deeply shattered. I have not yet gotten over my husband's loss and now this makes me feel even furthur down in the dumps. My life seems so worthless...nothing to live for anymore (except my 2 sons) but surely they can do without me even so.Can you kindly help me and tell me what I should really do?? This is not the first time he left me but he keeps coming back and because I love him so much, I keep having him back. I may be stupid but I just cannot help loving him with all my heart.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (17 May 2009):
 I really feel for you hun. There's a man that I always go running back to at a snap of his fingers even though I know he'll only hurt me and let me down. We haven't shared as much history as you have with this man though and it couldn't have come at a worse time for you could it? I'm slowly learning that I need to use all my willpower to stay away from this guy no matter how much I want to be with him and I really think you need to do the same. Please don't think you've got nothing to live for, it might not seem like it now but you won't feel this way forever. If you ever want to talk just message me and I'll be here for you. x
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