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writes:hi, there's this guy, that i work, that i've had feeling for, for sometime, about 4 years ago he tried to hit on me, but i declined as i was going out with his best friend, the problem is that i cant stop thinking about him, i broke up with my ex because of him, we're really close, and we talk pretty much every night online, it just seems every time we get really close, he pulls away, and we end up arguing. Every time I try to talk to him about how I feel, he acts strange and walks away. I just wanna know if anyone has any idea why he's like this with me, is it coz he's interested or not.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (1 May 2007):
 Hey huni let me jus say this i have not been on here for a while because i have been dealin with a problem similar to yours. like u there was a guy at work things had been developin over a yr and only since the end of jan did things start to kik off sometimes it was great but it never seemed to last long until i got hurt by something he said or did it soon felt like i was doin all the chasin and ide had enuff of it we tried stoping things and soon thyd start agen because everytime i seemd to show i wasnt interestd hed seem more interestd n wed start it all over agen all this time i had a bf and he had a gf i ended up sleepin with him and its all turnd out to be a huge mistake so in my opinion if u feel like ur doin all the work your the one chasing him hes probably not worth it huni because if he really cared bout u and wanted to be with u thn hed show u no matter what. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): Dear, it seems from what you are saying, he is just looking for friendship right now and you need to accept that. First of all, stop telling him how you feel and lessen the contact, a certain degree. You have told him and told him and it isn't getting you anywhere. Don't let it get to you and please don't convince yourself you need to pursue him. Have faith. You made a friend, you both have chatted as friends-no committments,nothing more than just friends. . Leave it at that. If he likes you, he'll still remember you. If he doesn't, he's not worth your time. Know why? Because..you are a wonderfully nice person. So the best thing you can do...don't let this bug you and just move on! Go meet someone more worthy of your attentions and interest. Please recognize that you "don't" have to be in a relationship or have a bf to feel whole. You are an amazing, wonderful, whole person, who just happens to not have a bf, right now. Believe that first before pursuing any relationships. Then realize, this guy-for reasons of his own-is not interested in a dating relationship or he would have made the 'move' already....so what! Pull back from him and go find someone more less complicated and is worthy of your love. This guy isn't the one. Let it go.
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