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writes:I have noticed that my husband is being weird. What I mean by weird, is that he has taken to giving me compliments. Being very indulgent, like fetching me a sweater when I say I am cold, acting really affectionate, when usually he isn't. My gut feels weird whenever he does it. Like something is off. The other day I was sick in bed, and he came home from work and came to the bedroom and said, I just wanted to see our pretty face. That was the last straw.My hair was all messy and My eyes puffy from having a cold and being sick. He never talks to me like this. What could have changed? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 December 2014):
 I can't speak for your husband but I know when my back ailment was diagnosed our ex life died for the longest time (and has not really recovered) because my husband was afraid to hurt me during sex.
I wonder if your husband is afraid to hurt you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, thanks for the answers. Every one of you has a good point there. I did try to jump his bones, as you say, and he refused saying he is very tired. But to be fair, I had been healing from a slight injury to my back which, while it is now feeling better, has prohibited me from household stuff for a awhile. He had been pulling long hours at his job, than having to come sometimes to dirty dishes and laundry because my doc said no heavy lifting for about a month. And my husband insisted on doing these things so that I wouldn't re-injure my back. Now I am feeling much better, and two nights ago he took me out to dinner. I was sure the evening would end in sex, because he was being so nice. But he wasn't up for it so the next day was his day off and still he put me off. He might well be tired, but I just don't know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2014): I think you will have to just ask him. Say something like:
Honey, I really love the new you and all of the nice things you have been doing for me.
I just wondered what is it that brought all this on? Is there anything you want to talk to me about? Are you worried about me in some way?
Anyway, don't make any accusations because it sounds like he just had a mind to be more appreciative of you. That is a good thing. Don't wreck it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 December 2014):
IS it possible he made himself a holiday promise to try to go back to being kind and complimenting you and winning you back over to the cute young thing that adored him so instead of being suspicious that something is wrong or he has ulterior motives?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2014): Oh dear. I've heard that when a husband acts more attentive than usual it usually means he is having an affair. They act extra nice to try to throw you off.
Don't let on that you find his behavior weird just play along with it and act appreciative.
You could try the sex test. Next time he is all lovey dovey, jump his bones. If he rejects you then he may be having an affair.
Look for other things too. Is he taking better care of himself? New wardrobe, more cologne, new haircut?
It could be nothing too. Maybe he has got an awesome surprise for you for Christmas that he is excited to show you and it's inspiring this other side of him.
Good or bad, something's up. Now you've got to figure out what it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2014): I agree,it does sound like a guilty conscience-unless you've been arguing a lot recently and he's got scared you might leave or have you got some hot male co-worker that he thinks you might fancy or something?
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