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writes:I've bin with my boyfriend for 7 years, thro out these 7 years we have always been abit rocky but always felt we was in love wiv each other.i've bin thro hell an back wiv this guy, i love the bones ov this man only to find out he's been seein my mate behind my bk, he has broken my hart.i've found txt messages on his phone at christmas from her asking if i was there an if he could talk,i asked him out rite wot was goin on an he told me there was nothing going on between them.i've given this guy the best ov me while being wiv him so gave him the benifit ov the doubt an could never see him doin that to me anyway,we were in love!i found out last week he'd stayed there, i was deverstated. he admitted he'd been there but nothing had happend.should i belive him because i love him?i've not really seen him since i kicked him out an when i do its like he's rushing to get off.this man was my life how could he do this to me?sitting and thinking about it i wounder if he'll come bk wiv his tail between his legs as he had done befor,it was only last week we were planning holidays and he was telling me how mush he loved me and wanted this to work.wot the hell is going on in in head? i am so confuesed.i cant eat or sleep nor get him out my head, it is making me ill. i can't stay in my house as its the home we shared,i even hate the cat i once loved as it was ours.this man is giving me mixed signols but i cant walk away as i love him an feel empty without him.we have only been split up for 4 days how could he just change his mind like this and hurt me.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 The 7 year itch isn't fiction it does happen in some relationships. And it certainly sounds like there is something going on with your "mate" (however she is no friend to you). Some relationships are just not strong enough to survive. I suggest you start getting ready to re-enter the dating world. Stay busy, time is your best friend now. You will be just fine, honey. Keep your eyes peeled for the guy who has been waiting for you for 7 years and will treat you like a queen.
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reader, Carina  +, writes (26 May 2007):
 You're having a very difficult time with this guy and you've been let down by your mate too. Have you talked to your mate about this? See if you can find out the truth from her. Talk to her calmly and say you need to know.
I think you should also ask your boyfriend to sit down with you and have a proper talk about it all. Ask him if he is really committed to you or not and tell him you have to know the truth even if it's hurtful. If after that you still get mixed messages from him, then I think you would be best to stop seeing him.
There is no point staying in a relationship that makes you miserable. It will only get worse and it sounds as though it has already had its ups and downs.
You've been with him a long time, but you're still young and there are millions of other men out there who are trustworthy and loving. Go out with your friends and have some fun. Put him out of your mind as best you can and look at it as a new start in life. If he's meant to be with you then he'll come back when he's ready and if not you will have built your own life without him.
It will hurt, but be strong. Don't let him destroy you. He's not worth it if he's been cheating on you. Good luck!
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