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writes:I met a guy 7months ago whilst on a gap year. He's 8 years older than me and we live near each other back home (about 500km)... We started dating straight away and moved together after 3 months (hasty I know but as we're both here temporarily it makes sense)We have a good relationship: we are complete opposites but we work things out, and have a great time sightseeing and going on trips today.And then tonight he asked me when my return flight was, I told him (in about 3months) and then asked what his plan was...We have had this discussion before, he knows I'm going home to study and I guess I've kinda assumed he'd come with me, not straight away perhaps, but within a few months. And so tonight he said he was going to travel some more... basically telling me our relationship is over - in 3 months. I cannot stop crying, how do I handle this? Enjoy the next 3 months and then start uni with a broken heart? We live together here so we're kinda stuck...I love this guy so much, he's my first boyfriend and he's giving me so much confidence, love and life... I'm heartbroken right now...How do I deal with this maturely, and perhaps get him to reconsider?
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 You need to talk to him. From what you wrote, I get the sense that you two haven't talked about continuing your relationship past this period when you're in the same place together. He may feel the same way as you, but isn't sure how you feel. The only way to clear the air is to tell him you'd like him to come with you if he's able to, and that you'd like to continue the relationship because you feel very strongly about him and it would be a waste to just throw it away like that.
Good luck!
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reader, babygirllovej +, writes (23 May 2012):
 I can understand why you are so upset-it would be heartbreaking for anyone.
However when you said "And so tonight he said he was going to travel some more... basically telling me our relationship is over - in 3 months." it caught my eye because he didn't say the relationship was over in 3 months...he said that he was going to travel some more.
I would bluntly ask him now if he plans to break up the relationship in 3 months due to the circumstances or if he wanted to work something out.
If he does plan to end the relationship I would try to enjoy the remaining time together and when the time comes make an effort to meet new people.
Good Luck!
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