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writes:Recently I met this guy who I thought was the greatest thing that happened to me. He always knows the right words to say and I fell for him. Now im realizing how crappy he has been treating me. He calls me every night but always hangs up on me when I don't want to talk about certain things. He is always asking for nudes and then says I'm childish because I said no. He never wants to have a serious conversations. I for some reason am having a hard time letting him go. Reply to this Question
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reader, butterly101 +, writes (11 March 2015):
butterly101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice, I really appreciate it
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reader, MSA  +, writes (11 March 2015):
 I agree with Xearo.. it's a BAD ADDICTION.
I guess it's all a part of life. We reason with ourselves and why and how this is bad for us, and how we should just walk away, yet we can't. Nothing is holding us back but we just can't walk away.
Unfortunately there is no set of instructions on how to walk away. Only YOU can decide when to do so. He will continue to mistreat you and hurt you, time and time and time again. You will put up with it, going back to him time after time after time. Then one day, you will decide it's enough. You will stop and you will walk away.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (10 March 2015):
 He is clearly using you. I'm going to try to reason with your intellect, and maybe give you a perspective you haven't considered:
He's using you for his own sexual gratification. The level of your feelings for him matches his level of contempt for you. You are a blow-up doll that breathes to him.
Think about it. You want to talk serious about a relationship. He wants nudes like some creep in the park leering at women and rubbing himself under his pants. He wants nude pictures, not you.
What is there to let go of?? A sexual leech. You have a hard time letting go because he relies on destroying your self-esteem in order to be the ONLY means of making yourself feel better. That's why he calls you childish. But really, you need to get to the place where he is disqualified from making references to maturity. After all, he's the one trying to get nudes off of you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 March 2015):
 Block his number, delete it from your phone. If he calls on another phone tell him to go fly a kite.
You can do this.
You already know he isn't a good fit, so WHY waste more time on him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): You both want different things, and he's mostly interested in sex. Of course you're finding it hard to let go, but it will pass. You don't need to be pressured that way, and he clearly doesn't respect you; or have the right kind of feelings for you.
Give it some time, my dear. That's all it takes.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (10 March 2015):
You couldn't have described a bad addiction any better. It will be easier to move on when you learn to fill the time you would have used to call him. If he calls you, then ignore his calls. If you want to call him, simply don't and call someone else.
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