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writes: Hi, I wrote for help on 9th Aug "We grew real close I thought we could be together, but Now I fear I have pushed him away!" and i would like to thank the two people that replied. I did as you guys said - I left him be. To my surprise he got in touch and took back everything he said and said he was so sorry for hurting me (he hated himself for what he said) and that he could never not talk to me or be in my life. He said the only reason why he said no to getting together with me was because he was scared of getting involved and had trust issues and maybe i could be patient?!? We spent the whole weekend together but it just makes things harder the more time I spend with him - I know I have to be patient and I guess strong but sometimes I feel I am saying the wrong things which causes him to blow hot and cold on me. Any suggestions guys (oh and thanks again to the two original reply posts!) Reply to this Question
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reader, mwest  +, writes (15 August 2006):
I was one of the one's that replied to your oringinal message and I hope that I helped you. Keep doing what your doing, let him have his space. Like I told you in my first reply to you, I'm going through the same thing right now with my ex. We're still talking, actually I'm spending the day with him this weekend. I think, in time, he too will start coming around and want me back in his life. But, for him, his situration is a little different than your boyfriend's is. I've been reading this book called "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray. I can tell you this, since I've started reading this book, I feel so much better now about the situration I am in with my ex than I was before. This book has helped me understand better why men pull away and has helped me communicate better with them. I highly recommend this book. Everytime I read a new page, it basically pertains to what I'm going through right now. If you really love this person, don't give up. Be patient and strong and hopefully in time, if not now, he realizes that he has a great thing with you. I'm hope my ex is feeling the same way now with me. Pick up that book and read it, you'll feel better about what's going on. Let me know what happens! Good luck!
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