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writes:Hiya, well basically im 18 years old girl and i've never done anything with a guy. Im not allowed boyfriends and when i would get close 2 a boy my own age or older, they would always show their true colors sooner or later making me just feel like giving up on man kind at times.But on new years day i started re-talking to this bloke i spoke to 3 years ago. Hes 24 and in the army. age isnt that much of a difference because i can be quite mature and i normally make blokes work hard if want my attention.But there was something different with him, he captured my heart from the word go.He gave me his number and we would constantly text each other for the past week. but hes always talking about sex, when i say that 2 him he does change for a bit and be sweet.but week gone and now hes just not paying that much attention, we always seem to fall out mostly my fault because he asks me for topless pictures. and iv told him let that alone me being a virgin iv never done things like that. I don't mind flirting but it gets different to that stage. so i put my foot down saying how its obvious he didnt feel like that towards me not the way i care for him.But as usual he blanks those kind of statements and talks about something totally different. must admit he always talks to me nice even when im having a fit.It just im wondering if he wants pictures of my bits and bobs does that mean hes not interested in me in the long run?we made up couple of hours later and im falling for him. i honestly don't know why but even i make it more easy for him which is daft! he asked me for them pictures and i just said i'll send them on valentines day, and now i feel like sayin no. but obv hes going to get mad because i keep changin my mind. but i think of him as potential material if you get me. but does he think anything like that towards me. could he just be doing a bloke thing and i'm taking it o.t.t? thanks for your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I'd like to say thank you to everyone. You gave different views but we all make mistakes. I ended up sending him a topless picture but without my head on it lol. and we're not talking no more because I decided it wasn't going to work out. I've decided to spend more time fixing other problems.thank u all though xxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Take care with sending pictures where you can be recognized, only when you trust the person 100%. (just imagine what somebody can do after he/she got mad from anger, jealousy, ending a relation...)
He's in the army and he's 24, so theoritic on the max of his libido.
In the army, mainly men around who are talking a lot about sex, who are sporting a lot, who are supressed by their higher rang officers and who cannot get rid of their tension because there are not so many women around (mastrubating on a shared room...mmm
For me it's normal that he will start more easy to talk about sex, it's all the time is a guy's mind and he has none and the tension is increasing day by day, when you make him aware, he takes back about the subject.
If you decide to send pictures, don't put your face together with the parts he is asking for. To my opinion, you have not so much to loose if you cannot be recognized
Good luckFollow your feelings.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (16 January 2009):
don't send them...he will only show his friends or worse..like stick them on some awful internet site! so don't do it.
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reader, MT19 +, writes (16 January 2009):
You say this guy is in the army, it is possible that he wants these pictures as a saucy reminder of you when he's away with the army. On the other hand like you say he could be using you.
Saucy pictures can be a lot of fun but only if you totally 100% trust the person you are sharing them with, and it doesn't sound like you do.
If he really likes you then what's the rush?
Alternatively you could always tell him that your not prepared to do topless photos but the next time you meet up you will let him see what he craves. That way he can have the memory of you topless but not a physical photo.
The decision is yours, but don't be rushed or pressured into it, if he persisits he's not worth having!!!
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reader, sparkleworks  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 You said you're "falling" for this guy so you probably won't take any advice that presents him negatively, but I'm going to try anyway because you sound like you're worth it.
This guy is obviously using you.
There are a lot of men who are blessed with the skill of 'talking nice' to get what they want, which is sexual a lot of the time.
You talk about texting... do you actually know this guy? If you haven't seen him in three years I'd be very cautious if I were you.
Don't send him the pictures. Save it for someone who respects you
xx
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