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female
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30-35,
*olly
writes:Okay, so things were going okay with my boyfriend. We'd met up, kissed, cuddled, held hands and been going out for two weeks. In the last few days we'd been chatting every night, and he confided in me yesterday that he was finding them hard, and awkward (we're fine when we meet up, text or chat online).Furthermore, he told me in the early hours of the morning that he desperately wants to love me, but isn't experiencing the "spark" you get in the beginning of a relationship, even though he is attracted to me, and has told me that I'm perfect for him, and that we both cried the last time we had to say goodbye.He thinks all this is partly because he's been on antidepressants since his last girlfriend and the highs are getting numbed by the drug and also, having mild Aspergers (see: http://www.aspergerfoundation.org.uk/what_as.htm), is struggling with the intense, constant communication. He's asked for the intensity of "us" to be reduced, as it has been since the start.He's asked me for my patience and support, and to do what I do best: love him. He's told me that he would only break up with me as the very last resort, as I am perfect for him. Also, not to lose faith, that he's still committed to me and that I remain his #1 priority.But what if he never loves me?I don't know what to do, say or think.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Two weeks is not enough to know whether you are right for each other. He is clearly trying to get over his ex, do not rush things. Enjoy what time you have together, without putting on the pressure of that four letter word. Relationships need time to grow and blossom, if you guys go too fast then that kinda spoils things and is very hard to get back on track.
He has already said he is interested and would like things to progress, being needy will put him off. You are both young and have a lifetime to settle down.
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reader, crazy_in_luv  +, writes (17 April 2008):
wait if u can..the guy seems genuine to me.
if u do love him.and can wait,do that.
he just needs time..he'll come round.
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