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writes:My boyfriend of a few weeks has already flaked out on me (without calls to let me know) twice. I really like this guy and when he spends time with me, he's utterly amazing. But getting a hold of him is nearly impossible. Should I stick with it and hope that once the relationship gets more serious, he'll stop this, or do I break up with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Hmmm. I think I need more info on the nature of his absence before I can advise you.
Does he have a job that makes it hard to contact you? Does it seem that he disappears on the holidays or on weekends? Does he not call/text/email you back except on late hours? Does he seem to want to spend time with you on the spur of the moment, or does he plan out a date and take his time?
If you two are not serious, it's almost certain he's dating multiple women. It's possible that he may get more serious with you, but what you have to do is play it cool. Give yourself a slight air of mystery as well. Don't be so available to him...more to the point, don't APPEAR to be so available to him.
If he stops taking your calls/messages, stops calling you, and seems distracted, then he's probably getting serious with one of his other prospects. Some men date women like they're shopping for shoes. Buy several pairs and then return the ones they don't like. Sounds cold, but it's true. Just give this one time, and you have no obligation to be exclusive to him either. ;)
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