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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I feel in love for the first time at a young age. I was probably around 13. Everyone said it was puppy love and it'd go away. We dated for 4 years and he turned out to be everything I didn't want in life. So I left him in 2003. And I started dating my current fiacee not long after. My first love has always been a huge part of my life and we promised to always be there for each other no matter what. And for the most part we have been. Until Novemember of 07. Things took a wrong turn. He kissed me one night at our river camp. And although at first my fiacee was pissed off he still let me talk to him. He knew it meant alot to me to keep my promise. But after a friend of ours reminded him that my ex kept telling me he loved me that night. My finacee told me to stop talking to him, or he was leaving. So I did. That was in Feburary. It's been so hard on me and I can't understand why. Days and days go by and I still think of him all the time. Even when I shouldn't be. I really thought I was totally over him. Until I had to stop talking to him. It's gotten so bad to where I watch the video of him on youtube. Just so I can see him and hear his voice. But like I said it wasn't like this when I was able to talk to him. It's like a huge part of my soul was tooken away from me. And everytime I try to bring it up, my finacee just gets mad and says the same thing, if I talk to him he's leaving. I just wish he knew how it felt to have such a huge part of who you are tooken away from you. But he doesn't cause I am his first real love. There has to be a way to make this hurting stop. It's driving me crazy. And to make matters worse. When I'm at the river with my family. He's always around and I can't even say hi, how are doing. Please help.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (12 August 2008):
 now your engaged that mean you should forget your ex,if you still have feeling for your ex that mean you should not continue with your fiance because that is like cheating on him also how can you let that man kiss you and you are in other relationship !!!if he did that and he knew ur with someone eles that is just disrespectfull!!!!
i think you should sit with urself and know what really you want!!!you may come back to ur ex and get feeling for ur fiance!!there is a saying(when things in ur hand you don"t know their value but when they arenot anymore you want them more and wish they come back)!!
i hope you find urself and decide what you want!!
and if you love ur fiance you should do what he ask about also he did not ask for lot !!!!
you ended with ur ex then you should not talk with him anymore!!!
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 July 2008):
 First of all, it's not okay for your fiance to control who you can and can't talk too. That is wrong. What else is wrong is allowing an ex-fiance to kiss you while your with someone else.
It's okay to keep communication with someone. You must though lay down your boundaries and they must know that you are communicating as friends and crossing that or attempting too will be unwarranted advances and not tollerated.
This guy who did kiss you, if knowing you have a fiance, is not respecting the relationship you are in, therefore not respecting you. You should be able to have a relationship without any interferance. If they do interfere, it's up to you to put your foot down and tell them you won't accept that behavior.
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