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writes:I'm 27, in a good job, have a good social life, me and my fiance are well-liked. We've been engaged 6 months.I found out that my husband was addicted to Vicodin the other day when I found bottles of the stuff hidden behind the breakfast cereals at home - I had no idea they were even there!When he came home from work at 6pm, I told him what I'd found, he behaved evasively. He denied it at first, then broke down in tears and admitted he'd bought it online as a way to relieve himself of stress at work (he's now in management at his job) and can't get through the day without his "fix" of it.He said he didn't really want to be this way, and wanted help, but felt too ashamed to tell anyone.I do love him and wish he had told me sooner that he was stressed, then he could have helped me.I want to get help, but am not sure what's the best type to get as it's not like he's taking the drug for recreational purposes or is a drug addict, he's just overburdened and stressed.The vicodin addiction possibly explains why his sex drive shot up so much and the fact he was always overeating.Any advice would be welcomed; what would you do if tou were in my situation?By the way, it's 6 months to our wedding... but I still love him, this hasn't made me question my love for him as he is a decent loving guy basically.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 September 2009):
He's spoken to you! That's great. That means he really trusts you, so it sounds like your relationship is certainly on the right track. He needs to see a counsellor and his doctor. If he's worried, maybe go with him? Only a counsellor and a doctor can help him really. lots of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): That depends on how much he takes it, does he go through withdrawals when he doesn't have it? Vicodin withdrawals include severe diarhea, severe body aches, high anxiety, and no energy...your bloodpressure will also fluctuate severly.If he is that involved, it would be best to do a medical detox, where he receives medical care during the process and drugs to minimize the severity of withdrawal symptoms.If he can quit taking them them without this happening to him....he needs to start a regular exercise regiment to help alleviate his stress hormones, after a week of this, start cutting back on the vicodin slowly and then also attend narcotics anonymous meetings where he will find support and learn about addictions. It is recommended that one attends 90 meetings in 90 days when trying to stop addictions.If he does nothing, nothing will change, and in fact it can get worse. His best chances of overcoming this is to have a supportive spouse/partner, so kudos to you for sticking with him :) Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): At the moment you are the most valuable asset to your future husband. He has realised he has a problem and has confided in you. This problem has nothing to do with you so please don't let it affect your relationship. Believe it or not, it a simple mistake. In society today things are so fast paced that everyone looks for an easy solution.No matter what drugs you take seeing a drugs counseller is very important. Drug takers don't fall into a stereotype. Even looking at websites is a start. When he's on the road to recovery you can be satisfied to know that your husband were stong enough to deal with it together.
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