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writes:How do I forget about him, he's horrible to me:(?So there's this my brother's friend who I really liked and we use to talk all the time but all the sudden he stopped ringing me and would always want to argue as if He can't stand me. He says I act like a mother( I m just caring person) So something happened to him that was really sad, he had nowhere to go so he came to stay with us. and I tried to talk to him but he seemed irritated with me and he was on the phone to this girl his voice changed and I knew he liked the girl anyway the call got cut off and the girl never rang him back and it was as if he was waiting for her call but she never called. I care and wants to talk but he was waiting for someone who didn't care.He never gives me a straight answer he always answers as if I' m stupid or I'm annoying. He said I act as if I'm a good girl:(. But I am, I don't drink, smoke or party every weekend nor sleep around with guys:(He's acting like a douchebag and I'm so hurt. How do I forget about him?:( is hard cause he's currently staying at our house.:( Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 July 2015):
 I think it's easy. ACCEPT that he doesn't give two plucks about you. IT happens. Not everyone is going to like you or want to talk to you.
So distance yourself and leave him alone.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (15 July 2015):
 When someone describes themselves as a 'caring person' red flags go up for me. 'Mothering' and 'caring' are charitable ways to describe meddlesome, patronizing, overbearing, controlling, manipulative behaviour.
Your brother's friend doesn't sound horrible to me. It just sounds like he's fed up with you. He doesn't want your unsolicited opinions about his choices and he's free to confide in whomever he wants, whenever he wants. The same as everyone else.
Who are you to judge this other girl and decide what she's thinking? You don't know why the call ended abruptly or why she didn't immediately ring back. There could have been a perfectly reasonable explanation. His interest in her, their conversation and what they may or not feel for one another is absolutely none of your business.
If you want people to treat you better, then treat them better. Stop interfering in their personal affairs, stop making unreasonable demands of them and be more considerate of how others are affected by YOUR actions instead of dismissing them as 'douchebags'.
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