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writes:I am having a huge problem. My boyfriend of 3 years has recently revealed he has started to have doubts. In the last two weeks. He confessed he has only slept with two other people (he did say a much bigger number as he is a man) and he thinks that he is "missing out" and that he is "too young". I have a bigger number and me telling him the difference between sleeping with people and being in love is what makes life worth living. I can tell him he isnt missing out on anything but the emptyness of being with someone who doesnt love you. Its like he missed out on the feeling of lust and wants to know what its all about.I am 21 and he is 23. He has been told by members of his family that he should be single for when he starts college in september. He didnt go to college straight after school and (as persuaded by me) now he is living up to his capabalities. He says he loves me very much and doesnt even want to break up with me. But he is scared he will start to feel like he wishes he had been with other people (or sown his oats i guess). He keeps comparing himself to his uncle; who got together with his wife at 18 and recently ended up cheating her. But he's nothing like that. He doesnt want to cheat on me, so he's told me, but he doesnt want to end up having the feeling of wanting to cheat on me. We've never had any problems we're the poster couple, and we make eachother happy.My problem is that I love him and I want him to be happy but he doesn't understand that if its over between us - its really over. That seems to be all that is stopping him. Its like he's got cold feet- only we're not getting married.Please what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Geordie  +, writes (25 January 2009):
You probly feel the same as my wife i have put her through hell over the years thats the way i feel that i am missing out on something and when i go out i completly forget about her and my two kids and she has recently threw me out and im stopping at a friends flat and i have never felt more alone and i know now that going out drinking isnt everything my wife and children are the most importent thing to me but it has taken this to realize this and i am just hoping and praying that she will take me back and give me that one last chance
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