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female
age
41-50,
*mokytallulah
writes:I have been dating someone for 7 months. He's a nice person, and I do love him. But I have this constant doubt that I'm being taken advantage of because he wants a companion. At the start of the relationship, I felt he was taking advantage of me for sex. I was a virgin then (first boy I ever slept with), and have since contracted HPV and have to go in to the obgyn for wart removals every week. When I was away on vacation two months into our relationship, he made out with a friend of his whom he once said, "She has nice breasts, and I would like to have sex with her". He didn't tell me, I found out from a friend. He hasn't done anything really wrong lately, and he's been loving, but I still constantly have doubts. Recently, he decided to go for a hair transplant w/o discussing it with me beforehand, and because he paid such a huge amount for it, he told me that we should cut down on eating out etc. I'm not a high maintenance person - I like beer and pizza more than fancy restaurants, but sometimes I feel like maybe I do deserve to be treated better. I don't know. I'm confused about what I should do. Please help.
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reader, 17Irish17 +, writes (5 March 2008):
Sweetheart, leave the bum! Any one deserves better. He cannot afford you, but he can afford hair transplants? What are some of his other hobbies, etc. Does he go out with his male friends?He is a person who puts himself first. It is probably more difficult to leave him because you lost your virginity to him. However, there are much better men out there for you. LEAVE!!Good luck
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reader, KittenMagic  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 You've done that already
If when in a relationship you find yourself stressed, unhappy and are finding it hard, then it's really not worth it.
Try remembering that Mr Right that you dreamed off when you were in your teens, wouldn't you want to meet him?
Then go find him hun, he's out there waiting for you!
=)
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reader, smokytallulah +, writes (4 December 2007):
smokytallulah is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI got HPV from the boyfriend, and recently had to go in for colposcopy because my pap smear results came back as positive for slight lesions. It turned out that it wasn't a bad thing, but I'm shaken up - dating shouldn't be this difficult, or maybe it's just me being naive. We do have some good times, but lately I've found myself to be super unhappy and constantly stressed out. I'm not sure if I'm hanging on to the relationship because I NEED to or because I WANT to. How do you decide and how do you assess your relationship and see if it's worth it?
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reader, KittenMagic +, writes (4 December 2007):
You do deserve to be treated better, if you're not happy with the relationship, then something needs to change. Remember - there's two people in your relationship, and he needs to realise this.
You didn't say how you contracted HPV, from your boyfriend?
If you two have been okay recently, then speak to him, tell him your worries and let him know how you feel.
I know how you feel, almost as if you are constantly waiting for the next problem?
If this doesn't help, then maybe it's best you leave him hun, and find someone who will worship you the way you deserve =)
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reader, confused_girl_88 +, writes (4 December 2007):
its sounds to me like he is putting his needs before yours if your having doubts then there is something wrong with the relationship but it could be fixed. best thing to do i think would to take a real look at how it treats you and if you think you deserve better.
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