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He's a great bf and helps me with the kids...but I fear it's too much responsibility for him!

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Question - (31 August 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 31 August 2006)
A female , *'sgurl writes:

Iam a solo parent in a long distance relationship with a great guy. We have only been together about a year and a half, 8 months of which I have been out of the country. Due to work commitments I had to leave my children with my parents for a year while I worked in another country. My BF has been going round to see the kids a couple of days a week, taking them for the night to give my parents a break once a week. My kids are now asking if he is their father which he is happy to be called, he will even tell people they are his kids and he is talking marriage. I really do love him and want him to be a part of our lives, but I cant escape this huge fear I have that it is going to be too much responsiblity for him to take on me and my 2 kids (hes only 22). What should I do, should I rock the boat and risk losing him or just count my blessings and enjoy the fact that I have a great guy?

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A female reader, j'sgurl +, writes (31 August 2006):

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The kids are aware that he is not their real father. I have explained to them that they are lucky, they get to have 2 dads. I do realise that it is my own insecurities about not being good enough that are making me fearful and will just have to work through them. I appreciate your answers and will make sure I let him know how much I appreciate him and most of all just enjoy it. He is a good man! Thank you.

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A female reader, Helen1986 United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2006):

Helen1986 agony auntI think that you should count your blessings and realise how lucky you are. I do think that you should sit your children down and explain that he is not there real father, but a father figure. Just incase things do not work out. I think this man genuinely cares about you and your family so be grateful to him. Good luck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006):

Enjoy it, love, you deserve it. Men like that do not come around often.

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A female reader, channelangel +, writes (31 August 2006):

Well, to me, it sounds like you have a wonderful guy there. He gets on well with the kids and I am assuming they get on well with him?

I think you should enjoy the fact that you have this great guy who is willing to make you and your kids very happy and wanting for you all to be a proper family. I say go for it! Be happy and enjoy! :)

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