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writes:I hope you can help me. Im kinda in a tough position. Im doing my Leaving Cert at the mo (Irish GCSES) and right before a big exam a guy friend asked me on a date. I had to say yes not only is he a good friend, he needed to do well in that exam. To make matters worse I agreed to go to the Debs with him (Irish prom).I really dont like him that way and if I tell him that it will not end well. My best friend is his brothers girlfriend. As it is this guy stops me talking to my other guy friends. What should I do? Be honest or what ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2014): Definitely be honest, or you will find yourself constantly leading him on trying not to hurt his feelings. He will take advantage of that.
He may get even more attached to you thinking you feel the same. Asking you to the prom was probably because he didn't have the nerve to ask anyone else. You are close and familiar; so it's convenient to crush on you.
Be straightforward and honest. If it does end badly, it could partially be your fault; if you lead him on too long.
I don't think it will.
If you tell him the truth, his feelings will be hurt, or he might be embarrassed. He's not a baby, he'll snap out of it.
Don't allow him to keep you from talking to your other guy friends. Put an end to that right-away!
When dealing with guys, being straight-up and honest is very important. You'll gain their respect, and they will not try to manipulate you.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 June 2014):
 I think you should definitely be honest with him. Tell him why you said yes and tell him how it is you really feel. At this point in time, during exams its best he not focus on dating anyway.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2014): if you don't like him like that, you need to put a stop to it now. Don't go to the debs with him. Explain that you don't feel the same way. You don't have to just go to please him. He will need to accept and respect your decision. Good luck.
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