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writes:I am a teenage girl in a bit of a predicament. In the last few days I have learnt a friend of mine has developed a fancy towards me. I never really considered him before, as he is five years my senior, but now find I find I share the same feelings towards him. Is the age difference, as a friend put it, “so past the three year mark”? Or does it really matter? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): I think at your age the age gap is too big, he might make a good older friend if he wants to be just that, someone you can sound off to, but if he has other ideas, like a more intimate relationship, you are too young for that in my opinion....he may be a bit immature for his age, but he still has a lot more life experience under his belt and I doubt that you all have that much in common just yet.
I think you should be cautious.
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reader, sunrise  +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Hi, the age difference is not the issue but does he know that you aren't 16 yet? I know, lots of people your age are having sex (or say they are!)but it is against the law and your life is just starting, if he knows your age and is responsible enough to wait until you are old enough and ready for an intimate relationship then i can see no problem in spending some time together.
If he thinks you are older, then you must put him straight, it wouldn't be fair to trick him in any way.
At 20 he's probably had a few gfriends his own age so my guess is he thinks you are a tad older than you actually are. Just be very careful and enjoy his friendship for now.x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Does he know how old you are? Pursue this relationship by all means but if you're sensible you'll take it very slowly and keep it light with NO sex until you're 16. If you can both handle this and he respects you then he'll not try to pressure you into sleeping with him. If he does then get rid of him fast as he wants to be with you for the wrong reason.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): The age gap does matter, a five year age gap at your age seems rather big. I'd wait a few years before entering a relationship with this guy.
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