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writes:hi, i am 18 and have fallen head over heels in love with a man that is 32 years older then me. I am in love but I also know the relationship is doomed as past the bedroom we don't have that much in common. We have been having sex for about a year and a bit now and I know he really likes me and i really like him and it would be hard to break it off but i am about to go to a really good university so should i call it a day??
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 the age is not what's making this impossible.
Tell me all the things you do with this man other than have sex...
concerts?
movies?
dinner?
why or why not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, i saw him yesterday and we really did end up making love, it was all sensual and we clearly felt very emotional the whole way through. at times when he was saying how much he missed me his voice was cracking up and his eyes watered and i felt the same.
i dont really know what to do because i am absolutely in lust with him and do see him as a close friend as well, which to me seems like a recipe for a great relationship but our age differences make that impossible!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 September 2011):
Yeah I would call it a day. IF the only thing you have in common is sex it's going to be hard to have a relationship.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (24 September 2011):
 You don't have a relationship with the penis, but the person. If you have nothing in common, you have nothing aside from sex. When you go to college, you'll naturally separate even further, so you might as well call it a day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2011): Age doesn't matter to me personally it is what you feel but if there is nothing else other than sex that is what is keeping you going it really isn't much of a relationship so maybe break up. Just remember at the end of the day it is not what other people comment it is what makes you happy so I would say follow your heart. Good luck.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Is this even a relationship or is this a FWBs??
In this day and age, this man is old enough to be your grandfather!
You two are at VERY DIFFERENT stages of your life. Here you haven't even lived a quarter of your life, and you're embarking on college. This man has lived thru half of his life, probably ready to be a grandfather(if he has children), and closing in on retirement. He knows exactly who he is..maybe even going thru a mid-life crisis by sleeping with a teen. You still have a ways to go in finding your niche in life. It's best that you break it off; it was fun while it lasted.
Also note, that it's a bad idea to enter uni already in a relationship.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Yes, there isn't much there for you. Enjoy Uni and the variety of younger men, who you might find more in common with in and out of the bedroom.
Honestly, I have no problem with an age gap for most couples, but a 32 year old man should be dating an 18 year old girl. I just can't see what they could have in common. And in your case, there is nothing in common except sex..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): Sometimes age doesn't matter and sometimes it does. This man is litterally old enough to be your dad. And although sex is an important part of a relationship, it is only one part. There is so much more involved in a relationship than that, and if all you have with this guy is physical, then that's probably all it is....
I would talk to him and see where he stands with you. You might just be his trophey, or maybe not. You won't know unless you talk to him.
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