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writes:Hello! So, I have a situation here... I am doing an internship and it ends in July, so I have ten more days. The thing is, I've fallen for a man there. But he is 30 years older than me, has been with his partner for 13 years, and has a son - who is older than me. I wanted to ask if you think it is worth trying to make a move, or if I should forget about it. We get along well, have things in common and there is chemistry, but I'm not sure of what to do... help?
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reader, anaphaseii  +, writes (20 June 2010):
He's married. Walk away.
Unless... Has he made any indication he'd be willing to start things up with you? That he's unhappy with his current spouse and wants something with you? If so, RUN FOR THE HILLS. Men who do this are only using you.
You're reaaaally young and while there is something tempting in this scenario, for whatever thankless reason, this is a situation you should avoid. Hopefully you'll do what many before you haven't done when they asked for opinions on this sort of thing, and you'll take the advice handed to you.
Again: don't. do. a. thing.
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reader, busy04  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 He has a partner & a son, so he's already with someone. That knowledge alone, is a deal breaker, don't become a helper of a cheater at this young age (not even when you're older). You could be getting along well now, but exactly what in common do you have with man who is ages older than you? (rhetorical question, don't respond to that)
Another point is that you say "you've fallen for him", you make no indication that "he's fallen for you", and that will most likely NOT HAPPEN. If this man is not even looking at you in that way, don't ruin it by trying to bring a simple "crush" into more.
Don't entertain this. Ignore it, it really seems that you have a crush. You can't be serious about this. And neither could he.
Good luck to ya!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): He is attached, a father and more than twice your age - all of which means it would very likely only be a fling. This sounds like a crush, so no I would say don't make a move. A lot of people could get hurt, including you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I think, it's just that I cant get out of my head the fact of not knowing what could be or not
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 Honestly, I think it is not a good idea. Doesn't sound like there is any future for you with this men, so don't embarrass yourself.
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