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*opelesslydevotedtowrb
writes:Okin october 2010 I moved into a new neighborhood,directly across the street was a gorgeous younger man.I have been living with someone for 2 1/2 yrs in a "relationship" but he treated me crappy but was helping me pay for college, so I exsisted instead of lived in our environment.well the hot young thing across the street and I were attracted to one another strong and began spending time togetherI ask the live-in to move out and started a casual relationship with the young hottiehe made me feel so wonderful about myself just from conversation and then we "got together" and were "together" til after christmas maybe second week of jan.we had always told one another we werent ready to get serious but i let him know what he had done for me and we had a special way of letting one another know how we enriched each others lives and how much we appreciated one anotherwell one day he decides he needs space and cuts off all contact with me and wont respond to calls , texts, e-mail nothiing and I need to know what to do We had a chance to speak breifly when he told me i was an important person in his life but he needed to get his things in order and he wasnt trying to hurt mehe showed up later DRUNK telling me all the things i had seen in his eyes the months prior and now hes gonehow do i handle this?im trying to be mature because hes 23 and i am now 40we shared such special time and exchanged some secrets about what we wanted in our relationships so im torn and i miss himwhat to do????
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 Yes am afraid so. You might think he will think that, but no he will think that you are clingy and you just will not let go off him. Men have different ways of thinking and if you keep contacting him he is just going to get more fed up with you.
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reader, hopelesslydevotedtowrb +, writes (2 May 2011):
hopelesslydevotedtowrb is verified as being by the original poster of the question im hurting still and i cant seem to let him go
two weeks ago i sent him some gummies(his favorite) and I text a awesome pic ture him a few days after that he said wicked picture and thanks for the gummies i told him i am still here for him and i miss him good night he aid nite and that was it he spoke to me a few days after that and i just got caught up again
i leave him alone but ever so often if i see or feel somr=ething strong for him i di text it to him so far no response but i have faith that if i show him how loyal i am he will know i will go throught the depths of hell for him....am i making it worse?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (24 February 2011):
Yes you really do need to stop that. When somebody asks for space the last thing you should do is text or email them, you are probably driving him further away from you without realising it. Its time to let go.
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reader, hopelesslydevotedtowrb +, writes (24 February 2011):
hopelesslydevotedtowrb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks
I knew that but was hoping that someone had some hope for me. LO
I have been sending text and e-mails just telling him how I'm doing not mentioning any of the drama that I feel because he has taken his affection away from me.
I tell him how much I miss him
I guess I should stop that?
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 There is nothing you can do now, he has left and told you he wanted space. If you invade his space he might resent you for it. Keep it as a nice memory and with time you will heal.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (23 February 2011):
The only thing you can do sweetie is to let him go. He has told you straight that he needs space, therefore the only thing you can do is give this to him. Am sure you were an important person in his life but he needs to sort out his head at the moment and decide what he wants. As for what you do now, the best thing is to move on and let him go. He may come back to you in the future or he may not but you need to accept now that he needs space from you and carry on with your life.
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