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writes:a little adviceim so confused i dont know what to do i have knowen this boy since i was in my twentys he was only a young boy then and as he become a teenager he did the usual harmless flirting im like his auntie but he is now an adult and when he is around he will look at me for long periods of time and have a little brush of his hand on my leg or arm its now starting to make me uncomftable he is a very strong confident personality we have always been close as auntie and nephew and he always spoke to me about anything but i dont want to be making things of this incase its nothing and lose the nephew i love help dont know what to think
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (26 May 2011):
 Glad to hear you put this to rest.
You may have saved this kid's chances for a prosperous future by making him aware of his behavior. If he is not aware of his behavior in, say, the work place - well, you don't need me to figure that one out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi as on the advice of spinnaker and others i had a talk with my step nephew he seems ok and said he didnt relise he was doing that and he will make a consiose effort not to do the same again fingers crossed he can
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 May 2011):
 you need to nip this "crush" in the bud.
over and over make sure he knows you do not fancy him the way he would like.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (24 May 2011):
you most assuredly need to put the brakes on this behavior because by doing or saying nothing, that is tantamount to encouragement in his mind. The next time he says something forward or does the little not-so-incidental-brush-of-the-hand, you need to express how uncomfortable that makes you feel. To let it go will only invite cotinued, more obvious acts.
He has entertained a very strong attraction to you - mostly due to his familiarity and comfort with you over the years. If there is a boundary between you two as aunt and nephew you do need to re-institute that and make sure it is enforced.
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