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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi My husband and I were talking and he and I have been married over ten years. Around ten years ago we were separated for a year but were still close, didn't live together but it was hard to tell we weren't married. Anyway the question is he just told me that ten years ago right before we got back together, he had been dating and slept with 4 other women before I moved back in. But ten years ago when I asked him if he was sleeping with anyone he said no he had tried but he loved me so much he just couldn't get an erection. But that was a lie. I have based my whole idea of why I love him so much over the fact that he had said his love was so strong for me he could sleep with anyone else. Here it is ten years later, what do I do? How should I feel? He says I making a big deal over nothing but it is something to me! He lied!Just wanted to know how and what others would do and feel?
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (10 December 2008):
 And why did he have to tell you this now? To make himself feel better or make you feel bad? I dont really know...
It doesn't really matter what happened ten years ago, you were on your break and he slept with someone else. Happens. And he didnt want to mess things up when he got back together with you, so he lied.
I dont really get the part where you say that he loved you so much he couldnt get an erection not sure how does that work...
I have to agree that when you love someone you dont go sleeping around but then again that depends on what was your agreement during the break.
Besides he was young and so this is how he had his "fair" share of experience.
I wouldn't dwell on this too much unless he has told you this on purpose to get you upset, so in this case we are reading between the lines - he isnt happy with the relationship?
Hope this helps x
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