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writes:i feel like im being manipulated by my girlfriend, how do you catch her out?one day out of the blue she told me my good mate said bad things to her parents about me, i confront my friend he said it didn't happen, i ask her father he did not know what i was talking about and she said he just does not like to get involved in affairs. I cant prove anything and if i accuse she gets angry at me.About a year before we started dating my other mate told me she gave me a b*** job, now im going out with her she said hes claiming it and it didnt happen, now im forced to distance myself from 2 mates.I feel like shes the one lying through her reactions but there is no way of finding out its my mates word against hers and i have to be loyal to her, any advice in how to catch her out?
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reader, leaf_ lady  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Go with your gut instinct mate, If you think she is full of it then she probably is. Find sombody else who has more respect for you x
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reader, romany +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Hello,
From reading your question, i am thinkin you are the same person who wrote this question too.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/who-is-lying-my-girlfriend-or-my-best.html
I'm afraid, that even without having the prior knowledge of this girl from your first question, I would still say that she is a liar, and your mate deserves your loyalty, she has already showed that she is a liar, i think the whole father thing proved that.
Your friend has nothing to gain by telling you she gave him oral a few years back, he wasn't trying to split you up, he knew it would put pressure on your friendship with him, but he was prepared to put that at risk to make sure you had your eyes wide open and no rose coloured specs with this girl.
If you want to catch her out, ask your friends for help, get your mate to text her, Then question her as to why she is denying that she gave 'him' oral, then flatter her by saying, i've never forgotten it, it was amazing, it is the best i've ever had, and blabla, she may reply, she doesn't sound the sharpest knife in the drawer, if she was, she wouldn't tell such blatent lies, smart people realise the truth is the only way to go, so I reckon its highly likely she will reply.
I dont know how you've left it with your mate, but maybe he could help in getting some evidence, and proving he is right, either by talking to her about it and recording it on his mobile, or texting her, he would have to be flirty and reminisce about how great her oral was, how he still thinks about it, blablabla and maybe that way he could get her to trust him enough to discuss the event with him.
I'm sorry, but i got to say, after what you've told us bout her, I believe your friend, I think you do too, but dont want to believe it, hence why you need proof, I think any girl that is prepared to make her dad feel and look foolish and then cover her dads obvious ignorance of whole situation by making up pathetic reasons to make him look uncaring is not a stand up person.
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (9 August 2010):
Have your friend buy a small recorder, and take her a side and bring it up w/ her. or better yet! have him ask her to meet him for lunch somewhere that you are coming too! but you need to show up late! get it. ok then find a friend that she does not even know! and have your friend just have a normal conversation and slowly slide in there by bringing it up w/ her. and have your friend just say you know that was wrong what you told your parents lets say your john? and she will go into it?? and then he needs to say something else like to throw her off like he doesn't care? but thats in the past! and you know that we wer'e an item before and john really loves you and hes my friend so can we call a truce. so in the mean time the person sitting by them would have heard the whole conversation!! you say you want to catch her but you need to know it's not going to be a easy thing to deal w/ unless you are really ready? i know i would be. i would want to know if it's him or her. to relax my mind and move on. good lucK!
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