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anonymous
writes:Hi, I hope you can help. Just before Christmas my partner got a new friend. Since this friendship she has changed. She has become very distant with me, seems angry at me for just existing and doesn't want anything to do with me physically. Today I found old messages on her old phone from the start of December to the end of January (when she got her new phone). She was telling this friend how she had feelings for her, and even asked how far they can go before they are cheating. They are saying 'goodnight beautiful' and 'morning gorgeous' to each other. I have asked my partner outright if she has ever had feelings for this other girl and she says I'm paranoid and denies it and just gets angry at me. I love her more than anything. Our relationship was so strong and honest until this new friend of hers came along. How do I deal with this situation? Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2015): Getting annoyed and accusing you of being paranoid are two classic signs of someone deflecting to cover up a lie. I would stop accusing and go the other way and be calm. She will slip up and if you keep checking or find a way to get the facts then you will be armed with info. However it sounds like she is cheating from what you have seen already surely. If she is denying or continues to deny it you either need to decide you are better than being treated like that and end it...or accept a relationship where you are sharing her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): Cheaters are good liars.
Dump her ass and move on, because you already have proof that she IS lying to you.
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