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writes:So I've been getting closer with this guy, by that I mean doing more stuff together! Like me and his friend went for a drive the other day and then last night me and him went to the airport to watch planes come in and then went to the top of hill tops to look over the city (during which he threw me over his shoulder and wouldn't let me down). Today we went and got lunch together (he insisted to pay) and went to do some shopping! All this said and done im not certain if likes me just as a friend or not? I know it's silly but I still catch him looking at other girls when we're out and about and he said to his mate 'not every girl I speak to im trying to get with'I just don't know what to make of it all... Help me please!! Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (5 March 2015):
 Hmmm. The looking at other girls while he's with you and that comment you heard him make makes me think that while there might be some attraction he shares toward you, he may in fact be a player. I would be careful.
A player never "formalizes" things, which fits your interactions with him. Someone with a serious interest in a relationship would ask you out and make it clear that he's interested in dating you. He'd say "Would you like to go to dinner with me?" or "Would you go out with me sometime?" or something along that variety. He's not using that language, encasing your time together as time between friends.
Also, the "not every girl I speak to I'm going to get with" would actually put me off. So he's grooming a few girls at the same time? That wouldn't inspire promise.
I wouldn't pursue him. He may start getting physical with you for sure, but that's what players do. And his buying you lunch means nothing, because players buy women drinks all the time.
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