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writes:Me and my girl have been together 5 months now. She is 26 im 23 she was married for 5 years to a guy that cheated on her quite a few times. She says she only married him because he got her pregnant. She has lived a pretty bad life childhood was spent in and out of foster homes and juvi centers. Nobody has ever loved this girl the right way. At first she tried to find somthing wrong with me because i was 23. She had never been with nobody younger than her, but once she seen i was real and gave me a chance... well here it is 5 months later and we just got married 10/01/10. She just left her ex husband back in november and when me and her got together she was still stuck on him, i had to fight hard to get her to realize she deserves better.The last year she was with her ex husband she gained a lot of weight, she has always thought low of herself so she wanted out so she went on a diet and lost a tremendous amount of weight, left her ex husband in november and slept with 10 guys by the end of january she said it was because of all the attention she got she had never had that she was and still is persuasive i guess you can say easy... so she gained a lot of her weight back after we got together, but the past month she has lost almost all of her weight again she done by starving herself, she stays mad at me, because i tell her she is too skinny i am a very handsom guy but i weight 310lbs im 6'2 i care my weight good she is 5'4 when we got together on up until last month she weighed 205lbs now she weights 162 lbs in a month starving her self. My question is do you think she is planning on leaving me or is she gonna cheat? sex has slacked off tremendusly hardly any affection? Or me being neagitive and feeling bad about myself because she losing all this weight and im staying the same gives me insecurities.. someone plz help me....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Ok well first of i understand your insecurities but this women needs a supportive partner you need to tell her she looks great no matter what size she is, you telling her she is to skinny will just make her resent you and think well he doesnt find me attractive anymore, you have to encourage her, if she is 162lb then that is not to skinny for her height, reassure her that you find her attractive and most of all try and help her to eat healthy as if she is starving herself then she is going to become very ill as her body arent getting the right nutrients. Am sure just because she is losing weight doesnt mean that she is going to cheat on you, but you shouldnt push her away either. Encourage her to eat healthy and if you are insecure yourself then eat healthy with her and go for walks together. Just make sure you make her feel loved.
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