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writes: So I have started to date or have been with and seen, my ex wife’s brothers ex wife I have a son with my ex and she has two kids with her ex who is my ex wife’s brother. Our kids are cousins but we both want no more kids. We both feel this could be a great thing between us but don’t know if it’s ok?? Any thoughts about this situation is it ok or not?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 December 2017):
 Technically it is okay, but I would talk to your ex wife and her brother about this as it can get very confusing for the children, am sure you can all be adults about it and talk things over so the children don't get caught in the middle.
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reader, Billy Bathgate  +, writes (17 December 2017):
You are related to this woman by nothing. Of course it is okay to see her. She technically may have been an in law but I’m not sure about that and she certainly is not an in law now. You two should enjoy yourself’s
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (17 December 2017):
Is this okay? Of course, both of you are free agents and there was only a marital connection between you in the first place. Keep in mind that the kids are cousins so make sure you both keep in mind that whatever happens with the both of you, it shouldn’t affect the relationship between the kids. Also, there is potential extra links to your exes that you could avoid if not in this relationship. I say potential because that rather depends on how much contact there is between both of you and your ex partners. Whether this creates drama and conflict really depends on the family dynamic, which you don’t go in to in your post. So really you know better than us what the consequences might be and have to make a judgement about whether that’s okay and worth it to be with this woman. However, we can address the basic question of whether there is an overarching moral code that would mandate that this is not okay assuming you both want to pursue each other. The answer is that there isn’t: it’s fine, so good luck.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (17 December 2017):
 There is no blood connection between you and your ex wife's brother's ex wife (unless she is a member of YOUR family) so there is absolutely no reason why you should not date.
One of our circle of friends is currently in the exact same position, dating his ex wife's brother's ex wife too, so this is obviously not so unusual. Relationships break down and people often gravitate towards people they know and have liked in the past but not done anything about because they were already in a relationship. Once both parties are free, there are absolutely no reasons why they should not see if they can make each other happy.
Good luck. I hope it works out well for you.
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