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*tewartDrew
writes:Ok so I need some dating / making the parents like me advice.I was a not so nice guy to girls in high school / college. I admit that I was jerk. I dated A LOT of girls, several girls at a time, I cheated on girls, was famous for "fucking and chucking" girls. I basically had no respect for girlsI grew up in a very small town, my grad class had 30 kids in it. So basically every thing you did everyone knew about before you were even finished doing it.When I was in college I ended up getting a girl pregnant from my home town and being young and stupid I told her I wanted nothing to do with her or the child and signed over all rights. This is something that I deeply regret. I live a few hours from my home town and dumped into Claire, she is the younger sister to one of my old classmates and her father is a local Baptist minister, and we started talking and we ended up going on a date. Fast forward five months and we have been dating ever since and she is currently 12 weeks pregnant. The only issue is no one knows we are dating. She tried to mention it to her parents when we first started dating and her parents voiced their opinion on me which wasn't a nice one. She is 23 so I understand and that she is an adult but she is very close to her family and I want them to see that I am in no way the same guy I was back in high school / college How can get the approval of a baptist minster so he will support me dating his daughter? And how cm I show them that I have grown up and will take care if our future child Reply to this Question
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reader, countryaly76  +, writes (2 September 2014):
Honesty is the best policy, and even then they may not like you. be prepared for that. This girl Claire should not have to tell her parents alone. you are a couple and it needs to be done together. sit down with her parents and tell them that you have been dating and that she is pregnant, own up to the mistakes you have made in the past and let them know that you have matured and also what your intentions are with their young daughter. It will take them time to get used to the idea of you and her as a couple, but when a baby is involved everyone needs to be on board. be patient and don't expect too much at first. they will come around when they realize you have grown into a man. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2014): Let's review:
She is a 23yo minister's daughter, you are like 10 years older than her, and you got her pregnant the 2nd month you were dating.
This is just what you have done to hurt your rep lately. Never mind what happened 10 or 15 years ago.
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