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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now. Her ex has recently got back in touch and says he wants her back. Shes still with me at the moment, but is confused, and I'm scared shes gonna go back to him. How can we over-come this?
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reader, loretta +, writes (10 May 2007):
 sorry mate but if they still have feelings 4 each other then i wouldn't get ur hopes up, a few months isn't long and if she got wiv u straight after they split up then she was probebly on the rebound, i garentee they will get bk 2gether an if they dont you'll probebly split up anyway because it will all mess her head up and she will feel confuessed. take a back seat, she will only be wiv who she wants to be wiv anyway, theres nothing u can do 2 stop that. let her come to you, then u will know urself if its u she wants x
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reader, penta  +, writes (10 May 2007):
 Well, she's being honest with you -- that's a good sign. Tell her how much you love her and that you'll respect her decision, but you really want her to pick you. I agree with CD -- now's not the time to be passive. Now's the time to be very understanding and subtly romantic (all without being too pushy!).
Also, don't say anything bad about her ex ... you'll put her into the bizarre position of feeling like she needs to defend him (even if she knows you're right).
I really like that she felt she could tell you the truth. If she does pick you, it says really good things for any future relationship.
Good luck! (And let us know how it goes.)
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reader, cd206 +, writes (10 May 2007):
 You need to give her the space and time to make the decision. Tell her you love her very much but that you need her to make this decision for both your sakes and then back off. There's always a danger she won't pick you but if you act like a posessive idiot it's more likely she won't pick you. Let her know you care but then back off.
CD
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