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writes:I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 5 months, her ex had to move into hers for reasons I won't disclose for about a month. I was cool with it the because I trust her. Any way he's moved out now and I found out he has no idea about me, when he called the other night she told me fm keep quiet so he wouldn't hear me. I asked her why and she said because it's none of his business. I asked jet about it again and got the same reply. I'm not happy with the situation now because I feel like she's trying to hide the fact we are together n don't want to seem like I'm badgering her non stop but I need to do somthing because it's making me want to leave her. They have a kid togeher and have been split up for about 2 years. Any advice would be good thanks.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (26 January 2012):
 To me it sounds as if your girlfriend is hiding something.
Its not nice she keeps you secret from her ex,
and why keep you a secret if he's her ex?
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reader, welsh_girlxx +, writes (26 January 2012):
A sort of the same suitation happened to I was with this boy for about a year, and he to had a child from a previous reationship, they used to go out together and were seen many times by my friends, and he didn't tell her about me. Which what you are doing Is questioning why? I later found out he was still with her and I was the bit on the side. I'm not saying anything is happening between them and it might just been from my experience why I, if I was you would also be questing, but there must be a reason behind why she wants you to be a serect. I would sit your gf down and just explain how you feel and don't see the problem in him knowing, if she again said it's just not any of his business just reply well what's the harm in him knowing then. If she then still doesn't tell him you do it. He's going to find out sooner or later and sooner the better as it will make u feel better about thing. Hoped that helped, and good luck :-)
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reader, LovelyLemon  +, writes (26 January 2012):
 I can't tell you her motivation for her not wanting him to know about you, but some possibilities may be that he's jealous and dangerous, she still sees some sort or chance of being with him, or that he would object in some way that could complicate her life.
Or maybe she really just thinks its none of his business! I didn't tell my ex when I got with my now fiance. Sometimes you just don't want them involved in your personal affairs.
If you feel like she's trustworthy, then let yourself be at ease.
Much love and Best wishes
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