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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for over two and a half years. We currently live together overseas but are going home soon and I am going to start studying next year. I have always wanted to study drama and so will hopefully get into the course I want. My boyfriend however is obviously upset by the idea of me studying drama. I think it stems back to two years ago where i was in a play where i had to kiss another boy a lot and i grew quite close to him. My boyfriend was very jealous and now i am forbidden to speak to or see the boy. Since then I have been the perfect girlfriend, never giving him any reason not to trust me but he doesnt at all, ladies' nights are his worst nightmare and he hates me sleeping over at anyone's house.Basically my problems are I need to make him be ok with my studies, and i need to make him trust me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 March 2010):
I'm not sure this is a relationship you should be in. This guy is just controlling you. You can't even sleep over at someone else's house without him hating it.
Understand this about men. You can't MAKE them do anything. They need to do it for themselves. It's not your job to make him overcome his insecurities. He knew you wanted to do drama, so knew that something like this might happen. Don't be a doormat to this guy. Ever. If he can't trust you, you can't make him. And if there is no trust, then there is no point in this relationship. Stop trying to make him do anything and accept that he is just that insecure. Don't ever allow anyone to control you. Or you can be sure that he will ruin your career. Time to let him go and focus on what you want.
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