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writes:I have very deep feelings for my former lecturer, I think about her all the time and can't get her out of my mind, I miss her when I haven't seen her for a long time and continuously read information on her just to know more about her. I know that it is immoral but I can't help the way I feel, I never intended to fall for her but now I have and I don't know what to do?I believe she did like me at one point when we first met as she would always use extended eye contact,(why would she do this is she was not interested?) which made me like her more but now she seems distant but my feelings have grown stronger. I really do not know what to do, I cannot hide my feelings and I have the urge to tell her, but I do not now how.I need some advice on what to do? I have tried getting over her but it doesn't seem to be working, it has been three years and the feelings do not dissapear, I am putting my life on hold, in terms of relationships, I cannot look at anybody else because I only see her and she is the only one I want. I was thinking of telling her when I leave, would this be a good idea? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (24 April 2011):
 Be careful when considering things you THINK are signals or hints, feeling the way you do about your former lecturer will lead you to see things you WANT to see even if in actuality they are not there.
You are not doing anything wrong really, of course you cannot help how you feel about someone so if you really need to, then tell her but after you leave so there is no legal or moral rule to be broken, you would just be two people who know each other and I assume you do know each other otherwise your 'feelings' would be based on poor establishments or base emotions on which anything meaningful cannot be born.
Just keep meeting people, try to at least be more social if you can, meet other people, other women, you don't have to look at them in a romantic sense or in a lustful way, just get to know them and who knows, your heart may be drawn to them even if you did not mean for it to happen, just like these feelings you have for your former lecturer.
I hope that helps.
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (24 April 2011):
I do know how you feel as i still feel same way about my teacher only i feel this way a WHOLE lot longer. I miss him so much and ave not seen him in few years. I have tried everything to get over him but i cant my feelings keep gettin stronger. Id say dont tell her but if u really need to wait till you are leavin college but she will more than likely reject you and u will feel million times worse. Pm if u wanna chat
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