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female
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41-50,
*idisha
writes:my life is in real mess now. i fell in love wid another guy while bein married. i disclosed dis to my husband and wanted to seperate from him. but he insisted on staying together adue to his conservative family background. v stopped all physical relations amongst us and i continued to c my boyfrend. after a yr i got pregnant and my boyfrend was not in a position to acept me as he is the only son of his family. and my husband stepped in believing the child to be his and i had a baby boy. after a while my boyfrend felt guilty and he still loved me much so he came back to accept me along wid our baby. but my husband is not willing to leave me coz all the world now knows tat baby as his. for our better future my boyfrend has gone to another city for better prospects in his business. i had to lie to him tat i ve already seperated from my husband. now my boyfrend wants me to settled down wid him in the new city. the prob is he is still financialy not stable. and he is a lil dominating type who will not allow me to work whereas my 1st husband earns a handsome salary and he has already given my baby a very luxurious life moreover he is a very submissive guy who does wat ever v want him to do. but even though am more comfortable wid him than wid my boyfrend i don love him. my boyfrend has assured me he will give us a good life but he needs a lil time for tat n till den we will have to adjust and i do trust him on dis but am worried to hell thinking whether i should take my small baby into an uncertain life. but i also kno he will have probs in his future life if he has a father who is not his own and when i have his real father willing to acept him i dunno wat should i do. the main prob is my husband is very attached to him now.n its breaking my heart to take him away from my husband. and for his sons sake my boyfrend has gone against his whole family and frends to accept me even though am a divorcee and a single mother. plz advice in the interest of my baby. its very urgent
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reader, salvation  +, writes (18 April 2008):
i always back the side of love so go with the one you love more that sounds like your boyfriend. I would let your husband visit now and then the kid will most likely just think of him as an uncle. That way everyone is happy. Its tough though good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Are you familiar with the term "adulteress?" If not, look it up. Your husband and child deserve more than your flagrant misuse of their trust.
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