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writes:sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little blood, so I put a pad on and only about 2 little specks came out all day and nothing else. Now Ive had unprotected sex before and I didnt get pregnant, but hey anything is possible right? and I would be new to this so im not sure ow early youre supposed to beable to tell? any help anyone? im going to geta pg test pretty soon, but I would like a little feedback from real experienced people, etc. thanks all! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you!! =)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 September 2009):
 Good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionive had a fever today =| and ive been to the restroom like alot lol, I know [TMI] but yea, im just waiting to get this test over with so wish me luck people!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): You don't need to wait. There are tests in the drug store that will tell you whether you are pregnant from the first day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, my last partner was a WHILE back. Like I said, I don't have [had] many partners, I'm not the type to just sleep around. I've been to the doctor after after the last partner though, and I was perfectly fine, so I highly doubt I have an STI. But thank you for suggesting it you never know. I'm just gonna go ahead and take a test, I just now have to figure out how long I need to wait.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 September 2009):
Sweetie, if you've been having unprotected sex with multiple partners, you are very likely to have an STI. I think you need to go see your gynecologist, have a proper examination and have a long talk with her or him about birth control.
Every time you have unprotected sex with someone, it's like you're being exposed to all the nasties that any of their previous sex partners had. And there are some silent infections, called 'silent' because you don't realize you have them, until one day you find out you are infertile because of an untreated infection.
Some of these STIs are most common in teenagers, because they're the ones who are willing to take risks like you have been. There's an epidemic in gonorrhrea and syphilis because teenagers don't wear condoms. It's like not wearing a seat belt when you drive. I know -- make that knew -- 2 boys, one 19, one 20, who thought they didn't need to wear them. They are dead now, one I think we're at the one year anniversary of the death, the other was about a year and a half ago. What a dramatic example for me to make here, isn't it?
If they had been wearing their seatbelts, they might be alive today. They each made a VERY bad, irreversible choice.
You are making a very bad, possibly irreversible choice. You may already have the human papilloma virus on your cervix. Did you get the vaccine for this yet?
Sweetie, I know you think you are mature and old enough for sex. I can tell you that you are not, because the choices you are making are dangerous to your health and your future.
It is your body and your life. Some things, once contracted, never go away. You don't want to have to explain to any future lover that you have Herpes. Or HPV. It could wreck a potentially wonderful relationship when the guy decides not to take the risk of getting it himself.
Go buy that pregnancy test, and get an immediate appointment with your gynecologist. If you don't have one, it's time. You're sexually active, you're having unprotected sex, you need some good medical advice given to you by someone who can examine you and help you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Oh. See you said you've been sleeping with him for about two weekd, but we didn't know you've had partner(s) before him. Ok then! Let us know the outcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnooo i dont mean 2 weeks is long haha. i mean my whole life, i havent been with many people but the ones i have been with have never gotten me pregnant. it kinda worried me for a little when I actually thought about it :P but now I dont know, im just gonna go buy a pregnancy test and see what happens! =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Right I didn't even think about that tisha. It hasonly been two weeks hasn't it? Ha. You could've gotten pregnant the very first time and not know it yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): I spotted at the beginning of my pregnancies. Why don't you go to the store and get an in-home pregnancy test? These are relatively reliable.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 September 2009):
You've been having intercourse for 2 weeks? And you think that's a long time? It only takes one time to get pregnant. Those little eggs and those little sperm really really want to get together, and they somehow manage to get people to make really stupid choices. You can start making good choices, right now, today.
P.S. How did you like the video? Cheesy, am I right? But educational?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Well you really shouldn't test the water. Some women try to get pregnant and it takes them a long time but it does happen. It could just be taking you a long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for everyone who replied, good or bad =] I know im lucky, its just sometimes I dont feel like its possible for me to be pg, like why have I gone all this time qand it hasnt happened.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 September 2009):
My favorite tool for explaining how pregnancy occurs:
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html A bit cheesy, but VERY educational.
Sweetie, the "pull-out" method is a pretty good way to get pregnant. Let me explain something called the risk/benefit ratio (there's an economist around here somewhere who could do a better job than I can, but here goes): essentially, to make a decision to proceed with an activity or a plan, you weigh the risks against the benefits. If the benefits are way way WAY better and the risks are teeny tiny, then you may proceed. Still recognizing that the worst could happen.
Benefits of not using condoms: no interruption of the "mood", no thin layer of latex preventing flesh on flesh contact, um, I'm out of ideas now, oh, yeah, no money needed.
Risks of not using condoms: chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV, pregnancy.
Do you see the balance in that equation? I believe an educated person makes better decisions. Here's a chart that you should take with you to your gynecologist so you can discuss your options. Clicking on all the little icons will get you more information about all of these methods.
One more thing, and I hate to bring it up because it is too late now, but there is such a thing as emergency contraception. This is not meant to replace regular contraception, it works to prevent an egg from being released and increasing cervical mucus, keeping sperm out of the uterus. The effectiveness of this pill, called Plan B, diminishes each day after the moment of unprotected sex, and by this time, it is too late for you.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/emergency-contraception-morning-after-pill-4363.htm
Buy a test, read and follow the instructions. And unless you have a high tolerance for fear of pregnancy and a casual disregard for your future health and well-being, make him wear a condom. Those few minutes of "unsheathed" intercourse are simply not worth this angst.
I hope it all works out for you! Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): "anythign is possible"... You've been way way WAY lucky so far. The pull-out "method" is not a method!! You can get pregnant from his precum. There's a 1 in 5 chance that yuou will and a much much higher chance that you'll get pregnant without pulling out!
If you can't make responsible decisions about sex, then you are not mature enough to be having it in the first place. It is not tht hard to put a condom on.
Get a test and for goodness sake, wear a rubber!
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 Having unprotected sex without getting pregnant before does not mean you are in some way immune! From the sounds of it, its more than possible, its probable that you are pregnant.
If you turn out not to be pregnant this time, i strongly advise that you get yourself onto the pill, and make sure that any sexual partner uses a condom (to protect yourself from STDs as well as pregnancy!)
Good luck. xx
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