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writes:I have been crying these days because i have no idea what to do. My boyfriend is 16 and im 14 turning 15, we love eachother very much but the thing is lately he has been smoking weed actually he has smoked for about a month now and has got stoned about 3times everyday! he has been smoking for a year but now a days he has been smoking heaps im sure you with all agree with me there.Before he started smoking as heavely i didnt have a problem with that but now he has been smoking it heaps, he has changed big time he doesnt care about anything at all, he says he loves me but not as much as he used too. He's really protective about what i wear but thats okay i dont mind.we have been together for 8months now, many of people have told me to break it off with him, i have told him to stop smoking but he doesnt listen to me which is understandable because he is addicted, anything i do he wont stop. I love him very much he respects me, he looks after me which is good. He's muslim. people have told me heaps that it wont work it wont work, i want to prove to them it will, i love him a hole heap. i have thought about breaking it off because he yells at me, cause he gets angry when he doesnt get weed but otherwise he is the most sweetest guy, and i no he will be the best bf ever when he stops weed. i want to be with him.i have had alot of boyfriends in the past, but when i guess my recent one he seems just perfect, i think hes the one i know its early to tell but still our love for eachother people have said that we will be together for ages!! but still i dont no what to do could you please help me.should i stay with him, i really love him i guess i just got to get used to him smoking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): Listen babe, I know you must feel terrible, but as a 4:20 friendly user, i have to defend cannabis. Okay, there is nothing in marijuana that is addictive, i have been smoking since i was 13, and on those days i dont have any its not a huge deal. Im veryyy sorry to say this but if hes moody then its most likely NOT the marijuana.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): No, i dont think you should stay with him at all. This relationship is going nowhere,especially as he is smoking the dreaded weed. He will have paranoid times and you wont be able to reason with him, believe me my ex did this all the time. He yells at you when you want to finish, then tough, you should finish with him and get your young life back. Why the hell should you be dragged down into the pits by him, get rid and meet someone who you so rightly deserve, sorry but i only seen pain and sorrow if this continues.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Darling! if he really respected you he would give up or at least cut down. Its good that you recognise that it is an adiction, but he has to want to stop or nothing you can do will make him. He can only do this for himself.
He is not perfect! and you could do better (much better) if he is shouting at you and telling you what to wear, he is a control freak, and the weed will only make him worse. I know this because my son has smoked this from 15 years of age. He is now 21, but so dependant on this drug "to chill him out" I really dont know what he is like without. Except I know that he gets very moody and agresive, and had to leave home because of his mood swings.
If you really want to help this guy, that you say that you love so much, then tell him unless you give up, its over.
He wont change otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Your not happy with the situation so it will get you down more and more if he carrys on, The fact that he is contradicting himself by saying he doesnt love you as much then telling you how to dress is proof that he is confused..You have to deal with this the best way for you love not whats going to make him happy, Thinking of yourself and your well being is really important ok....I'll send you some links to help.....
http://www.revolutionhealth.com/conditions/addiction/drug-addiction/understand-overview/marijuana-addiction
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
http://www.soulmatestatus.com/loving-an-addict.html
Ive sent you some help there love not only so you understand what your up against but some self esteem help for you as well just incase you need a lift if you need a chat message me love..TAKE CARE SWEETHEART WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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