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writes: I need help breaking up with my boyfriend?Well im in love with this guy that ive been talking to for about two months now and i have a boyfriend that ive been going out with for 6 months going for 7. I love my boyfriend but i really really love this other guy. I want to be this guys girlfriend and he wants me to be his girlfriend. Ive had sex with this guy and i havnt put out for my boyfriend for about 2 months almost 3 now and ive gotten into arguments with him but i havnt broken up with him yet. Im sprung off this other guy and i love him to death he will always be in my heart no matter what happens but i just dont understand why i cant leave my boyfriend. Ive been through so much with my boyfriend but ive also been through quite a bit with the other guy. He gets mad because he sees me kiss with my boyfriend and he gets into arguments about it saying that why do i tell him that i love him if im still with my boyfriend. He tells me to break up with him but every time i think about it i just cant i dont have the heart to do it. I really love him alot and i know that he loves me but i dont know why i cant break up with my boyfriend.I really want this guy to be mine and only mine but i know that if i dont break up with my boyfriend soon he'll get another girl because hes so damn cute. I only want him to myself and i get out of control jelous when i see him talk to other girls. I just dont understand how i actually fell in love and i dont know how he got me to have sex with him after only 3 weeks and it took my boyfriend 3 months. Im so attached to this guy but yet i just dont know why i cant leave my boyfriend. I mean this guy is so nice, he treats me right, he doesnt yell at me all the time...well only when i get him mad and i deserve to be yelled at but he knows when i should be yelled at, he laughs at all my stupid jokes because he understands what im talking about...hes the perfect guy, his personality is just the best, believe me he has the looks and the style of a pretty boy just that hes not as cocky and concieted as them, hes very generous and has a heart of gold hes let me borrow important things such as his car so i could go eat becasue he had to take a test and i just wanted to ditch....I got into a big problem with his car and yet after the cops and all of the suspensions, he still went in front and took the blame for everything because he said it was his fault for letting me borrow the car, I love him to death!!!!....with my boyfriend its different...I mean like he gets mad all the time, he doesnt really have all the looks in the world, he always yells at me....but we've been through so much like him always coming over he was there when my mom was sick i mean he's just been there for me....but this other guy has been there for me to because my mom hit me one time and he came over just to see if i was alright!!!!so did my boyfriend but hey he came first. My boyfriend and this guy dont like each other because he knows i think this guy is super cute. They have both been there for me but i know i love this guy alot and i know i love my boyfriend as well and i know that i want to be with this guy but i dont know why i just cant break up with my boyfriend. I know this guy is getting really tired of me kissing my boyfriend and being on him all the time he gets really hurt when he sees me....but like its wierd cuz when im with him like i forget about my boyfriend and like everytime he tells me that he loves me my stomach turns and i get goose bumps but just that i dont know why i cant break up with my boyfriend.I really need help i dont know what to do and i dont know who to choose......I really need help....From what i have told you should i choose????should i choose my boyfriend???or should i choose this other guy???if i should choose my boyfriend what should i do with this other guy???? and if i choose the other guy how should i break up with my boyfriend????Please help me everyone im really confused and i dont really know what to do so please please please help me!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2006): the same exact thing happened to me, and stick with your boyfriend, in time your "perfect" guy will not be so perfect anymore. i promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): I think you need your head checked. First of all, this new guy is only trying to be perfect because he wants to win you over. All guys love a good challenge. What are you going to do when this guy starts acting up and your boyfriend is long gone? There is no way that you love this guy if you are still with your boyfriend.. that is not love. You sound like you need to be by yourself for awhile and take some alone time.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (15 October 2006):
 Never break up with sombody you love to be with somebody you like. Because the person you like will break up with you to be with somebody they love.
Never a truer phrase.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2006): You need to get some maturity first and then you will know why you do the things you do...it seems to me that you are suffering from some low self esteem and abandonment issues maybe because your relationship with your parents is not a good one, your mom hit you, that is not acceptable...also putting up with a boyfriend or boyfriends who yell at you is not acceptable...are you attracted to men that abuse you, or try to control you? If you are I suggest you get some counseling quick, and I would turn your attention to improving your relationship with your parents if at all possible and this will make you feel stronger, and more emotionally independent...try to focus more on taking care of yourself and learning who you are then on focusing on winning the attention of cute guys, they can't fill you up and make you happy if you are not happy with yourself first.
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